Post # 1
I’m really curious to hear what the best wedding you’ve been to was like. In my opinion, it seems like all the really formal touches don’t make a good wedding – it’s a laid back feel.
For instance, in December, I went to what I would describe as a “typical” wedding – white tablecloths on the table, candelabra centerpieces, different courses….blah blah blah. Like every other wedding I’d ever been to.
But last month, I went to the most laid back, informal wedding ever – and I was so sad when the night ended!
It started with an afternoon tea on the lawn of a big gorgeous house (which the bride saved money on, because it served as the venue AND accommodation for the bride, groom, and all their family members). The bride was in a simple tea length dress and ballet flats.
There was dancing on the lawn with a band she got on “discount.” No dance floor needed….everyone was more than happy to get up and dance on the grass!
Then her two friends fired up the grill and made hamburgers and hot dogs for everyone…they were just purchased at the grocery store…weren’t even “homemade” burgers…so they were cheap, but DELICIOUS! They were devoured in no time.
The booze was flowing all night, everyone was helping themselves….no staff to go through….just go pour yourself a glass of bubbly or pop open a can of beer!
Anyway..I just thought I would share, because it seems like so many of the silly details (which napkins should I use?) don’t seem to be remembered….but an awesome bride who just cares about having fun with her friends will be admired!
Post # 3
I have been to very few, but I already know this wedding was different!
The couple was an opera singer and a film music composer. They had EXTREMELY talented and gorgeous friends. For the ceremony there was a live drum circle ambient music thing, an opera singer who performed an aria for the couple, and a fiddler to kick off the end of the vows/start of the reception with a big HEE HAW vibe. Oh and their officiant was this real live femal shaman with a huge turban thing on her head and tattooed angel wings that spanned her whole back (it was a backless dress). She pranced around them barefooted with burning sage.
The couple did some creative vow duet reading off their iPhones. She pulled her out of her corset. They had a lovely huppah that was made from branches. She made her own dress which was very medieval looking (outer corset with cowboy boots).
When the mother of the bride stood up to say something she thought her deceased husband would have said to their daughter on her wedding day, she goes, “Now I would like to say something that Harold would have said,” And in perfect timing a donkey (this was on a farm venue in NY), the donkey goes HEEE HAAAW! OMG everone was rolling on the ground laughing. It took a few minutes to get back to the ceremony. I guess it was very fitting for Harold.
The ceremony was MC’d by a very gay actor/comediam friend who did an awsome job. He wore a little top hat (like doll sized) and a tuxedo t-shirt and it was kind of like an endearing roast. The groom’s sister reenacted the song “I’m So Tired” from Blazing Saddles. The aunt was also a music composer and he wrote and sang a wedding song for the couple.
There was a lovely vegetarian buffet and dancing afterwards.
Oh and the night before there was a BBQ under the same tent. Their butcher friend does all organic pastured meats (he sings to his pigs) and he brought up all the meat and roasted it on an open pit. We roasted S’Mores on the pit at night. There were lots of NYC folks in attendance many who have never roasted a marshmallow!
It was fantabulous. We are engineers so we were definitely out of our element with all these beautiful singer/actor/painter/artist people. We even decided there’s no way we should even attempt a wedding of our own since it would never be as awesome as this one.
Post # 4
I’m really not into the formal weddings either – it’s harder to just relax and have fun. The best wedding I ever went to was my own, lol, but if we’re talking not-our-own – One of my best friends got married in her parents’ back yard in VA. It was in a tent w/ a DJ and caterer, but what made it special was:
1. They are two of my favorite people in the world
2. Their friends and family are fun and cool and laid back
3. We had a boys against girls dance-off (girls won, of course!)
4. We all went back to the suite my boyfriend and I were, and got TRASHED until the cops made us stop at 4 am, lol.
5. A lot of us were staying at the same Courtyard Marriott, so we got to have breakfast together and rehash the wedding while we nursed our hangovers.
6. That’s where I fell in love with my husband! (he was the boyfriend mentioned above)
Post # 5
My brother’s wedding was great! They made a lot of aesthetic choices that weren’t really to my taste, but in the end, it didn’t matter – the ceremony was beautiful and heartfelt, their first dance was to a pretty unique song that meant a lot to them, the food was amaaazing (seafood thermidor, a raw bar, little strips of filet mignon cooked to order) and the booze was flowing all night. Our uncle, who is a DJ, had everyone on the dance floor all night and the whole thing was just FUN. They also added cool little touches like a live bananas foster flambee-ing on the dance floor and tiki drinks at the bar.
I try to think about this when I get all stressed about our flowers or our cake – in the end, I didn’t think so much about how everything looked, but about how everything felt – loving, fun, warm and awesome.
Post # 6
It was a long time ago, but it was the vibe of the wedding, so relaxed and everyone was really happy for the couple. The bride was/is a professional singer, so when she got in front of the band and sang, you could see that the band was in shock, she sounded better than they did!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
I want this thread to come back to life and take over the “worst wedding” ones.
The best I have been too was a backyard reception (the ceremony was private and most people weren’t invited, but that was okay) The bride’s daughters kept everything organized, there was plenty of food, we had plenty of drinks, big pitchers of sangria, and it was casual and bright. There was no one colour scheme, it was just “fun” The guests danced on the grass all night and when it got dark, all of the lights were beautiful.
Post # 8
@sherryberry: BUMP. I’d love to hear about some amazing weddings!
Post # 9
Well the best one I’ve ever been to involved me walking down the aisle and marrying someone really special 😉
Hehe. As for the best that wasn’t my own, it had a real family vibe to the day.. The bride’s gown was amazing, I had somewhere to sit during the ceremony/reception gap, the people I was seated with at the reception were a hoot and the food was perfect. 10/10!
Post # 10
I want to hear more good wedding stories! I’ve been to 4 weddings my entire life (only 21!) and none of them were impressive or special in anyway! Half of them were terrible! Oh, how I long to attend an amazing wedding!
Post # 11
I‘m older so I’ve been to probably 30 or more weddings!! I have a lot of family and I’ve been in almost all of their weddings 🙂 Also have been to many friends’ weddings around the world – one couple had two weddings in one week–in Belgium and Mexico City! (their hometowns). I’ve also been to a 3-day muslim wedding in Nepal, a carnival like wedding in Brazil, etc etc. So some have been truly spectacular but if I had to choose just one …it surprises me but I always remember an old colleague’s wedding back in 2000. She married a Brit so it was in Gara Rock – a remote place at the southern tip of England. I mean, I didn’t even know that many people there! There was just one inn and it was pretty much taken over by all the guests. At the time I didn’t know the bride planned to have the ceremony outdoors but the weather wasn’t great so it was held in the inn’s library. Everyone just kind of sat wherever they wanted to (chairs, bench, floor, on cushions), their friend was the officiant and he was a good speaker and funny. Different family went up to do readings. Most weddings I had been to were fairly formal or traditional so this was the first time I experienced this warm, untraditional ceremony and it was so personal and intimate! After vows, everyone went outside for a mimosa, a group picture among the hills and fireworks! At dinner, they encouraged everyone and anyone to make a speech or toast -some were really good and so hearfelt. The funny thing is, I love dancing and bands, etc but this wedding didn’t have a reception really in that way. The groom’s parents were musicians (used to play with some quite-famous British bands from the 60s) so I remembered them performing and just random people performing, playing guitar. The groom also sang – he had a great voice. You were free to kind of go into different rooms of the inn or to go back to your room to freshen up. Eventually one of the rooms a DJ kind of set himself up in. It was still formal and yet all so easygoing. I do remember the groom’s rich, chocolate cake. Apparently, one of the groomsman said it was “special” – it might have had a little hash in it!! Again, was a work colleague of the bride so didn’t know that many people there initially but I remember people were nice and I met some interesting folks, ended up getting a ride to London next day with new friends, and it was just a blast.
Post # 12
The most fun was definately the hippie-tastic wedding (wedfest) that we went to. Two days of camping in a field. Huge bonfire, marquee with bare tables, minimal decorations and not enough chairs for everyone to eat inside so many of us eat round the bonfire. A lovely handfasting ceremony with the bridesmaids in wellies. Staying up till it got light, the groom’s band playing in the evenings. Lots of drink (and other stuff). It was wonderful.