Post # 1
OK older and/or encore brides 🙂 Describe your wedding party. We were just going to have one attendant each but are struggling with the idea of having a flower girl. While my Fiance children will not be able to attend the wedding (long story) we do have a very close friend with a four year old daughter that we adore. Do we include her or just go with the original Maid/Matron of Honor and BM?
And we have decided that if Fiance children do ever wonder about not being included (which is not our choice but their mother and the state of tn) that we can do a “family” ceremony at a beach to marry them to us if that makes sense.
Love to hear what you are doing!!!
Post # 3
40 here, We have 2 on each side and that is it. Our kids are way to old for that and the neices and nephews, well, we just didn’t want to do it. We are having more of an adult reception so we really didn’t want to encourage +1’s with kids.
Post # 4
We each had one attendant only. It was our first and only marriage and we each chose a good friend to stand up with us.
Post # 5
46 here, I have 5 neices and nephews ranging from 4 to 13 and he has 5 ranging from 4 to 12, so we are going to have them (hopefully girls in pretty white dresses and the boys in sooo cute black tuxes) walk down the aisle ahead of me and my 16 year old son will walk with me down the aisle. We aren’t really planning to have “official” attendents, trying to make our 75 to 100 guest (which originally started it out as a restaurant reception with immediate family only by the way)! wedding as stress free as possible!
Unixfairy, it would be nice if you included your friend’s daughter as a flower girl maybe and it is so sad that your FI’s mother won’t let his children join you for the ceremony.
Post # 6
I’m 40 and getting married for the second time, but my fiance is 29 and it’s his first (and only) wedding. He has a very large group of friends so we’re having 5 Groomsmen and 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man. I’m having my 12 year old daughter as my Maid/Matron of Honor, two of my best friends, my sister and FI’s sister. We will not be having a flower girl or ring bearer.
Post # 7
I’m 38. This is my second marriage. My bridesmaids are my three beautiful daughters, 20, 18 and 17. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my friend from the age of 17. My fiance is having his brother be his best man. No flower girl or ring bearer. But we are getting married on the beach, which I just had to add cause I am super excited about this!
Post # 8
It’s nice to hear all the variations here, because you look at wedding photos and they all have this idea arrangement of matching numbers of attendants, flower girls and ring bearers.
I’m 46. I have 3 attendants: my sister-in-law as Maid/Matron of Honor, my completely adorable 3 1/2 year old niece as flower girl, and my two best friends as bridesmaids. Fiance so far doesn’t have anyone; he’s from out of state and we’re not sure which of his friends is coming. It will probably be his father, uncle and cousin, since his friends are scattered around the globe.
FI’s 11-yr-old daughter will be a “junior bridesmaid” because she wants to be involved, but I don’t know what she should do besides get her a pretty dress and flowers!
Post # 9
I’m 44. No attendants at all. Just the two of us. His best friend and my best friend (both from when we were children) were guests at the ceremony but were not a part of the wedding. His daughter lives in Florida, had just started a new job, and is expecting her 2nd child. We told her not to worry about coming. We would send pics. My kids ages 18 and 16 were guests at the wedding. My dad and my son both gave me away. My daughter was the photog.
Post # 10
I’m the oldest of all of you! 53 here, 1st marriage, and the groom is 55 (1st marriage for him too). We had my two sisters and 16 year old niece as well as my cousin’s 10 year old daughter, but DH had only his oldest friend as a Best Man. And my brother gave me away since my dad is long gone. We didn’t care about the pictures. See non professional pic below:
Post # 11
40, both of us first marriage/no kids, having my sister, 1 cousin, and 6 friends. Would’ve had more but my fiance said 8 was enough, so my other close friends are doing readings or helping coordinate, etc. Flower girl is daughter of best friend.
Post # 12
Ok I think I win for most eclectic group! I am 45, he is 53, second marriage. I am having my 19 yr old daughter as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, my 45 yr old BF from work life as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, my 40 yr old BF from real life as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, no Maid/Matron of Honor.. I love them all equally! My Fiance is having a 75 yr old gentleman he has adopted over the years as his “father figure”, a 54 yr old one legged friend from the Navy, and a 45 yr old hunting buddy. Everyone in the wedding party is single. My 17,13 yr old sons are ushers and will walk me down to my hubby, my 8 yr old will bring the rings down, and Fiance 8 yr old granddaughter will be a flower girl! Our biggest hurdle of the day is who will get his mom out of the nursing home for the wedding lol. No father daughter dances, everyone is passed on. I laugh at all the drama younger brides encounter, it is so much easier when you are older and can concentrate on what counts. Hard to spend money on “bridal hangers??” when the roof needs repair!
Post # 13
We had a maid of honor (my daughter) and a dude of honor (my son). We had a very intimate ceremony (a dozen people), so a huge wedding party would have been silly. And even at my first wedding (which was much larger), I didn’t see the need for more than one attendant for each of us.
Post # 14
My sister is my maid of honor, and she is 50. I will have two bridesmaids, who are also my FSILs and they are 54 and 40. Their husbands are all the groomsmen. My great-niece and my Fiance neice who are both 4 will be flower girls, and my two great-nephews who will be almost 3, will be ring bearers. That is my wedding party!
Post # 15
Vow renewal ceremony will have my daughter as maid of honor, son as best man.We will also have various friends and family filling out the bridesmaid and Groomsmen. I am 44 an my spouse is 46
.This is a fun post!
Post # 16
39 here. first marriage for both of us (he’s 43), no kids. We’re each having 3 stand up – for me it’s best friend from HS, best friend from college, and his sister; He has 2 close friends and my brother.