(Closed) Designing a secular ceremony

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

A friend of mine was asked to do the ceremony for a couple of her friends.  She had never done it before, but she asked another friend of ours for advice (he has done a few non-religious weddings) and my dad (who is a minister).  They walked her through the nuts and bolts of what she would need to do for the day, and gave her some ideas on how to structure the ceremony, but the content was all her and the couple.  Do you have any mutual acquaintances who have done this before?  You can also find sample ceremonies online.  Have fun with this!  You have the chance to craft a ceremony that truly reflects you as a couple!

Post # 4
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d check out Mrs Star’s recaps for some ideas.  I believe Mrs. Mouse also wrote her own, and both have graciously shared the text of there ceremonies with the hive.

Post # 5
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You might want to check out some of my posts on WeddingbeePRO.. there’s some information on how I write and create my ceremonies for couples, and it has some tips for brides looking to write their own ceremonies! http://www.weddingbeepro.com/author/jessieblum/

I think a book is a great resource for this – I’d check out Judith Johnsons’ Wedding Ceremony Planner (it’s pink, and reasonably inexpensive.. very much worth it), as well as some of the Bees who have written their own ceremonies (I really love Mrs. Cherry Pie’s, and, as someone mentioned, Star just wrote extensively about the ceremony she wrote).

Writing your own ceremony is a huge undertaking, but it’s a worth it in the end, if you are willing to invest the time and energy into it.  Good luck!!

Post # 8
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m writing/designing a non-religious ceremony for our officiant too!  I did a lot of internet research, borrowed a bit from other friends who wrote their own ceremonies, and Weddingbee (Mrs. Star’s posts, in particular), has been really helpful for structure, general ideas, etc.  Good luck!

Post # 9
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are writing our own ceremony as well – my dad and his wife still had their documents on planning a ceremony that their officiant gave to them. I have been asked not to share the whole thing, but I would be happy to help share ideas! Also, just google wedding ceremony examples and youll find a lot of stuff!

Post # 10
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re having an officiant who’s actually a reverend (but doing a non-religious ceremony for us) and he sent us a lot of samples. We’re building and adapting from that. PM me with your email and I can pass it along if you’d like!

Post # 11
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

Glad to have helped so many ladies! I totally second jessieblum’s rec for Judith Johnson’s book — it’s a great starting out point!

Post # 12
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re having a Jewish wedding but Fiance is an atheist so we’re going with meaningful, non-religious traditions. Take a look at Jewish ceremonies – a lot of the traditions can be made secular – for example, the chuppah as a representation of your future home (our parents are standing by the corners of ours to represent our foundation), circling each other to represent the intertwining of your lives, etc. And actually in Jewish tradition the couple marries each other and the rabbi is really there for the blessings and guidance (I think).

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