(Closed) Designing your own maternity leave…long

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I have no advice, but I am in the same boat, except I am the second, and the first does not mind just taking her 6 week short term dissability (we are both currently pregnant).  I would prefer to take min of 12 weeks, but because we do not qualify for FMLA I know this is out of the question.  I also will not have anywhere to pump when I do come back to work, so that is another downfall, I will probably end up pumping in the ladies room.  

This is not ideal, but the only solution I can see would be to quit, and what horrible timing with a baby on the way.  

Post # 3
3730 posts
Sugar bee

I could have written this myself! I joined a company with no policy and no real plans of a policy this year, and found out I was pregnant a couple weeks later. I was actively TTC for a while, so before I was hired I did ask about mat leave and was told they would “work with me” if I were to need one. So basically I came up with a policy that I thought was fair (12 weeks time off using 6 weeks of disability, 2 weeks PTO, and then I said I’d go negative on another 2 weeks of PTO and take the rest unpaid). My company ended up agreeing to it, and said they’d work on a policy that includes pay as well and let me know when it’s finalized. Despite them being a bit unaware of maternity policies as a whole, it’s a good company so they were willing to work with me. I think that the best way to get what you want is to go in with a game plan and don’t just say “I need a mat policy”. Giving them an idea of what you’re looking for is a lot easier for them to handle. If they refuse to meet even your minimum requests, then that’s a good indication you may want to look elsewhere after baby is born.

Post # 4
1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think a good place to start is working out whether it’s job security or paid time off that’s of more value to you.

Post # 5
9198 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

first, if you are already pregnant, it is too late to get an alfack, STD plan.  the effective date of the plan needs to be before you conceive.  so essestionally 10 months before birth.

don’t think about not wanting to come back yet.  although if you 100% decide, i think it would be more fair to tell them, especially if you like the company and people.  so they can find a replacement.

if you are not sure or don’t want to tell, aka keep maternity benefits.  think about how long you want to stay home, 12 week, 16 weeks, etc.  and work from there.  can you take 10 weeks and then work part time?  do you have the option to telework?


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