Post # 1
Ok here’s my situation. I’m a guy. I’ve been dating a wonderful woman now for 7 years and I think its about time. She’s told me from very early on that if it got to this point I’m on my own picking out a ring. YIKES!!! Talk about pressure! I have one shot to get everything right and make it perfect and thats what I hope to do. Problem is….its very overwhelming. Since I’m the type that keeps everything secret so its a big surprise, coupled with the fact that most of her close friends are no longer near us, I don’t know where else to turn for opinions/advice. I know ultimately the decision is mine (both type and price) but I was really hoping to get some thoughts on the subject. Please dont feel rude suggesting price ranges or anything as that is part of what I am hoping to get help on. Feel free to send me a message if youd rather not post for all to see…I understand. Please help!!!!
Post # 3
Well, I think price range definitely depends on your financial situation. Have you been saving? It’s definitely not a good idea to go into debt with this purchase!
Has she given any indication of what type of rings she likes? Have you bought her jewellery in the past? What is her favorite piece? I ask because that could give some clues to what cuts of stones she likes.
Does she have a hands on job? If so you might consider a diamond that is set lower and won’t get caught on stuff.
Hmmm… I will see if I can come up with any more tips!
Post # 4
my uncle proposed to my aunt like this: he bought her an amazing brilliant cut diamond and when he proposed he gave her a novelty ring that lights up when you push on it, then they chose the setting together. it was really sweet.
do you mind me asking how you are going to propose? We girls LOOOVVEEE a romantic proposal and I’m sure you could get a lot of help. ooohhh her friends are going to be so jealous!!!
Post # 5
Ooh, I can see how this is totally scary to do on your own!
Does she have a particular piece of jewellry that she wears regularly? A necklace or a bracelet? What type of time period jewellry does she tend to wear (modern/vintage)? All these things can help you to narrow down the type of metal and the design of the ring.
Is she a traditional person? A bit more quirky? Would she prefer a coloured stone that means more to your relationship (her birthstone or your birthstone or the birthstone of the month that you first got together?) Something along those lines?
I definitely agree with ottawabride about looking at what she does for a living and thinking about settings with that in mind. I work a lot with my hands so FH picked me out a bezel setting which is perfect because there’s no prongs for me to snag on anything whilst I work. Especially if your girlfriend is a chef or works in the medical industry this is something to think about.
Oh, and does she have any metal allergies? Maybe she can only wear a certain type of metal which already helps you out. After all, you don’t want to spend money on something that she can’t wear!
Post # 6
Congratulations! If she really doesn’t want to give you any input, purchase a ring from somewhere that will let you return or exchange it. Then, encourage her to change it if she doesn’t love it (and don’t be sad if she chooses to do so).
I think if you give us a few more clues, we may be able to help more. Look at the jewelry she usually wears – what color is the metal? This might not be 100% accurate, but it should help. Also, try to get a gauge on her clothing style in general. Is she trendy or classic? Does she wear a lot of accessories, or does she dress more simply?
Post # 7
Wow you ladies work fast haha. By The Way I’m kinda getting sucked in by this site reading about everything? Bad huh? HAHA!
To try to answer some of your questions…
She is a teacher…so I dont know if you would consider that hands on or not?
Most of her jewelery is silver or white gold and although shes very into celtic style stuff…I’d be pretty willing to say she wouldnt want that style for an engagement ring. I would say she would want something a little more traditional. Nothing to crazy or different…simple, elegant and breathtaking. While shes not overly flashy I do think she wants some WOW factor if you know what I mean. Along the lines of traditional I would say diamond over other stones.
I have been a good boy and have been saving. I’m pretty responsible financially = )
Thanks for the help so far and appreciate any help! Big decision. She means the world to me and I just want it to be perfect! Moneys meant to be spent anyways right? Might as well spend it on the love of my life!!!
Post # 8
My fiance purchased a loose diamond and had it put in a temporary setting so that he could propose and then we designed the setting together. I loved it! The proposal was still a total surprise, and I got my dream ring.
BUT if she said that you get no help maybe that means that she wouldn’t want to help design it… have you talked to her mom? If you can at least find out what cut of diamond she would like then it will make it a lot easier.
It sounds like she is pretty open to different styles of rings, otherwise, she would let you know! Everyone I know who had a specific ides of the type of ring that they wanted made sure to drop a lot of hints, myself included.
I work in a classroom and my ring has never been a problem. I think that unless she’s a preschool teacher any type of ring would be fine for her job.
Post # 9
It would be very hard to pick out a ring for someone that I don’t know. But since you said a few key words like traditional, simple, elegant, not overly flashy. I would think a simple solitaire with not too much decoration on the band. You can probably find many examples of these on google images. Do you know what shapes the stones are on her other rings or jewelry if she wears other stuff? Round is very classic and timeless but princess/cushions (squares) are a little more trendy right now. Bezels and Halo style rings are also quite trendy. If she loves to follow the latest trends with her clothing then maybe she’d like the same in her ring.
As far as price range it would be hard to suggest and you should spend what you feel comfortable with. I certainly wouldn’t take out a loan or anything, but since you said you’ve been saving that’s good! Don’t feel pressure from the diamond people to spend 3 months salary unless you really want to, that whole idea made up by Debeers!
Post # 10
You did mention a little bit of bling, and many of us have some pavé diamonds inlayed into our bands to give it that little extra sparkle… Though you can’t go wrong with the plain platinum or white gold band and the beautiful solitaire!
If she has tiny fingers, you might want to look at more dainty settings– thinner bands etc.
Are you talking to her parents before you ask her? They might be of some guidance as well 🙂
Post # 11
To keep updated answers to questions and statements….
I didnt think the teacher thing would be a problem. And from what I took from her telling me she wouldnt pick one out is that she wants nothing to do with it. While she is pretty a pretty go-with-the flow girl and definately isn’t gotta have this gotta have that…I dont take that as I’m just going to go eany meany miney moe haha.
Shes not overly concerned with trends. Sometimes I wish she were a little more so I could spoil her more. However, since I dont get to spoil her all that much ordinarily and since she hardly ever asks for anything, I feel like nows the time to say thank you for being my best friend and always being there for me and making me smile every day.
Like I said I have been saving and have no intentions of having to take a loan. I have a pretty good job and up until this point have never really had reason to spend that much money. (Just an observation…but is there any girl out there that would be bold enough to just come out and suggest an amount? I mean I’m asking for someone to haha) Like I said if you dont feel comfortable saying it for all to see…message me. If you need to ask questions…feel free to do that to because I’m stressing over this! I just want it to be perfect!
I wouldnt say she had tiny hands or fingers either.
And to answer the question about the parents…I plan to do the old call her father before for permission (old fashioned? maybe…but just how i was brought up) However, I forsee this as being kind of awkward and am dreading the call haha. I will most likely wait until right before since I dont want anyone really knowing…I like to surprise…I feel like that way I will get her TRUE reaction. (This is also why I am asking on here instead of looking to ask others closer to her…although I know its making it ultimately harder on myself) Hopefully all worth it in the end!
Post # 12
From everything you have described, I would suggest this:
-a round diamond center stone (easily the most classic/traditional diamond cut)
-some kind of side bling (pave setting)
-maybe a bit of filigree detailing on the edges to make it look more vintage and unique.
mine is similar to this, except I have a 6-prong setting since I work with children and do a lot of hands on type stuff. (4 prongs are more popular but not as sturdy… if you break a prong you will lose your diamond… if you have a 6 prong and break a prong you will notice there is a problem before your center stone is endangered!) And the pave setting on the band is tapered, so the diamonds on the side get smaller as they approach the center stone, making the whole thing look delicate. My ring was custom made and I don’t have a picture that shows the detail on it or I would upload that.
Also, my fiance ordered the center stone from http://www.bluenile.com/ and then took it to a local jeweler to create the setting. They have a nice selection though, and he swears by their customer service.
Anyways, I hope this helps 🙂 🙂
Post # 13
I think it’s hard for anyone to name a price because they vary A LOT with diamonds. Not only does it depend on the setting and size of the stone, but cut, clarity, color etc. So the range is really huge…
From what you have described, I think a solitaire with sidestones, Or perhaps a pretty three stone ring? Both are classic and beautiful!
Post # 14
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Ok, I’ll be the bold one to suggest a price…This is only from what I got from reading your other posts but it sounds like you are a working professional who has been able to save up a decent amount of money to put towards the ring…
Therefore, I’m going to be blunt and throw out a number- My suggestion would be somewhere between the $5,000-$7,000 range. Only saying this bc my FH is in a similar situation and I know he spent on the high end of this range for mine. If I am in any way presuming anything with this range than I sincerely apologize but you did ask specifically for numbers so…
Personally, I think anything btwn 1.25-1.75 would make for an extremely nice e-ring 🙂 And I agree that a round brilliant solitaire setting with some diamonds (pave or shared prong are my two favorite styles) on the ring band…
Post # 15
lol… believe it or not, I helped two of my best guy pal pick out their rings for their gals. And I am a teacher too. 1. you said simple, elegant for her. 2. you said silver or white gold. 3. traditonal and breathtaking.
Like some gals have suggested, I would stick with traditional solitare, round, in white gold setting. Around 2-3 ct (I would go up because she waited so long for you to ask her, so she deserve something BREATHTAKING), in which case, you’d be looking at minimum 8k and up online for a good quality diamond ring, and 12k and more in regular mall stores. Start with pricescope.com to familiarize yourself with what makes a good quality diamond.
Post # 16
Hmmm. I say quality is better than quantity (carat size). I’m a teacher too, and my .75 carat ring is perfect. I work in an inner city school and if my ring were any bigger I don’t know how my high school students would take it.
For the price, it depends on what you can afford. I say set a price or yourself, pick a setting (mine was a little under $800) and then get the best diamond you can for the remainder of your budget!