Post # 1
I’ve seen about 18 places already. I’ve talked to a million people on the phone and via email. I’ve seen a million more places online and other resources. I’m stressed out, tired, and depressed.
We have a $20k budget (we’re putting in $10k; my parents are putting in $10k). Our budget needs to cover venue fees, food & beverage, photography, dj, florals & linens, and favors. Why does it seem impossible? Why does it seem like you need at least $40k to have a nice wedding?
There’s a lot more I’m not saying but basically, we’re having a hard time compromising on a lot of things. Our budget. location, and guest list are probably the biggest issues.
I’m seriously at the end of my rope, and I don’t want to sound bratty (cuz i know i am). but after 7 years of being together, i know I should be content with wherever we get married, but I just can’t be okay with that for some reason. I suppose it’s the romantic in me, but my heart breaks when i imagine my wedding in a place in which I don’t have 60% satisfaction. To which I might decide to not have a wedding at all…why waste your money if it’s not at least half the wedding you want?
Anyways, I just wanted to rant. Thanks for reading. Does anyone else feel like this? Am I just too hard to please?
Maybe i’ve missed some places. If anyone needs pricing or comparison lists in excel, please let me know.
Post # 3
have you looked into any of the yacht weddings?? My friend got married on a yacht out of Newport…it was one of the nicest weddings I’ve gone to…and it was ALL inclusive.
Post # 4
ugh…we are so picky…we don’t like the idea. it reminds us of sorority and fraternity booze cruise parties…i bet it’s probably more classy, but most importantly…we really feel it doesn’t reflect our personality and style. =( we haven’t ruled it out, but it’s definitely not at the top of our list.
thank you for the suggestion though!
Post # 5
i definately, definately feel your pain. my fiance, and both our families, are all from the midwest, and planning a wedding in LA has been out of control!! our budget was out the window a long time ago … we’re down to "do what you can."
that being said – there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be happy with your venue. it’s a lot of money, and a huge part of the day! i’d recommend looking at a place where you can do ceremony + reception; it’s sometimes cheaper in the long run.
if you’d be willing to look a little further north … maybe la venta (in the off season!!!) or palos verdes golf course in PV … or the reef restaurant or coast long beach hotel in long beach? sorry i’m not more help in OC … we didn’t really look there.
good luck & hang in there!!!!
Post # 6
Would you consider a decent part of Long Beach? My venue is the Betty H. Reckas Cultural Center. It’s a classy venue, no rental fee, but you have to use their caterer, which is good. What kind of venue are you looking for?
Post # 7
I’ve tried to venture out of the OC, but both Fiance and my parents think we need to keep it close to home b/c of many out-of-towners and older guests.
We actually checked out the Betty H. Reckas CC, but the parents still thought it was too far. Westinster is too far for them?!? I know. It’s a lot of limitations to have, and it puts us into a worse position.
Had the intention to check out the Reef, but was shot down b/c of location. I also was totally going to check out the Clarke Estate in Santa Fe Springs, but when I told everyone where it was, I was shot down again.
Here are the places I’ve checked out physically: The Villa in Westminster, Westminster Rose Center, Tustin Ranch Golf Club, OCMA, Newport Dunes, Franciscan Gardens & El Adobe in SJC, Park Prive in Costa Mesa, Arroyo Trabuco in Mission Viejo, private estate in Laguna Beach, Lido Isle Yacht Club, Techspace in Aliso Viejo, RecCenter Studio & KGB in LA, Irvine Hilton, NB Radisson, Hyatt NB, LA Arboretum, and Betty H. Reckas Cultural Center.
My parents have checked out Dove Canyon Country Club, Coto de Caza Country Club, Laguna Cliffs Marriott (don’t know why…so out of budget), Irvine Marriott and Hyatt…Fi checked out Courtside in San Clemente.
I have a ton of wedding packages via email from San Diego to Paso Robles.
If you need info, PM me.
Post # 8
If you have a $20,000 budget and are not finding things "acceptable" to the family, then you should probably have a chat with your family about what $20,000 does and does not buy in your area. Perhaps their expectations are based on an economy from 20 years ago. If you liked those places that your family deemed "too far" and they are within your budget, break down the numbers for them.
Post # 9
Hi Reesey, sorry to hear about your ordeal. I think I will be running into the same problem with my budget — I haven’t even started my search for a venue. I don’t know what kind of venue you guys are looking at and how big your wedding is going to be, but you might want to check out Cannon’s in Dana Point — if that’s not too far for your family. My fiance and I went there for our anniversary dinner last year and a wedding was taking place at that time outside in their deck area. I don’t know all the details but it seems affordable and might be worth checking out and finding out. Its a nice venue since its near the water. Hope this helps!
Post # 10
I would say check the Grand Tradition. I have a lot of friends getting married there. Apparently, they have a heart shaped lake…cheesy if you ask me but they really like it. I am not sure on costs but just another option. Hope it works out!
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2018 - Rainforest wedding, beachfront restaurant reception
I went to a nice wedding at Ole Hason Beach Club in San Clemente. It’s right by the water and the ceremony was held on the lawn. From what I understand, the rates are pretty reasonable.
Post # 12
Check out Strawberry Farms in Irvine, The Summit House in Fullerton, adn there is a very nice banquet hall on Beach Blvd. in the fullerton/brea area this is affordable.
Post # 13
Have you looked at the Turnip Rose in Costa Mesa? I’ve heard very good things about it.
Post # 14
Don’t get depressed. You’re bound to find a place! I agree with CarolineG..sometimes family doesn’t know what the real cost of a wedding is these days until you show them the numbers that you’re dealing with. What’s your central area?
Post # 15
How many guests are you planning to have?
Post # 16
I helped my sister look for unique locations in OC. So here are the locations we came up with. She eventually decided to do a destination wedding in Cancun to limit the number of guests. Hope you find something that you feel comfortable with.