(Closed) Desperately need MIL help (Long)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
415 posts
Helper bee

I would get out on your own with your SO as soon as possible.  Your FMIL will survive.  My FI and I don’t live with our parents, but we love them and are close to them.  

Post # 4
45536 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cathiemaney:  Your MIL is a nut case. Get your own place. There needs to be consequences for her actions.

Post # 5
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t go back to your MIL’s place, please. She sounds unstable and that’s no environment to raise your baby in like you said.

Post # 6
140 posts
Blushing bee

Don’t go back!!!!!!! I was sort of in a same situation with you! I got out!!! Don’t go back!! i am now stress free from moving out from my MIL house… I feel so much better not having to hear remarks from my MIL. Do you n your husband a favor, don’t go back.. Move out and just be mutual with your MIL.

Post # 8
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Yes, most definitely at 27 yrs old, he should have been out on his own by now. Especially when you are about to start your own family.. Move..move ASAP!!! 

On another note, your SO is the only man that she has had and relied on and this is the first time she is realizing he is starting to be on his own and the fact that she feels threatened by you. Hence her passive aggressive, manipulating, low self esteem ways. She has issues that only SHE can work on. I can’t believe your SO put all that money into her house and not one for you guys, but tht is on him. Consider it a gift to her and move on. He will most likely get it later in life back. 

For you and her, just try to be cordial as possible. Let your SO handle her. Try to put one distance between you for now but try and reassure her you still want her to be in your lives, just not in the every day capacity it has been. 

Post # 10
140 posts
Blushing bee

cathiemaney:  My husband was very very Happy!! 🙂 MIL is really controlling so it really made us feel so so much better getting out of that kind of environment. We both wanted to grow deeper in our marriage and just be more independent. 

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