Post # 1
This is a long shot but you never know…
Years ago I picked up a random poem book at the library and found this fantastic poem about marriage/being in a relationship. I wrote it down and kept the note for many, many years… until I one day threw it out. I am now desperately seeking this poem as I REALLY want to have it read on our wedding day. However I have only a few clues to go by and Google hasn’t proven to be the master of finding things this time.
I want to remember that it was written by a monk (?) a couple of hundred years ago and basically the poem was sayign that it is not always easy being together but at the end of the day it’s worth it and better than being alone. For some reason it might even have been called The art of marriage but I think my mind is tricking me there cause there is another poem with the same name but that aint the one.
Is there anyone out there who know what poem I might be talking about or know of a really good search site or anythign that could be of help? Spent hours finding this poem…
Post # 3
when i googled it, this is what i got. is it similar?
“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
― Mother Teresa
Post # 4
Unfortunately not even near. But thank you for taking the time. Much appreciated.
Post # 5
IS IT THIS: The Art of a Good Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson
“The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry.
It is never taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”
Post # 6
Can you remember any specific lines or phrases from it?
Post # 7
“The Promises of Marriage”
“Marriage is a promise of companionship,
Of having someone to share
All of life’s experiences.
Marriage does not promise that there will
Not be any rough times,
Just the assurance that there will
Always be someone
Who cares and will help you through
To better times.
Marriage does not promise eternal romance,
Just eternal love and commitment.
Marriage cannot prevent disappointments,
Disillusionment, or grief,
But it can offer hope, acceptance,
Marriage can’t protect you from making
Or shelter you from the world,
But it will help to reassure you
That there is some by your side
Who truly cares,
When the world hurts you
And makes you feel vulnerable,
Marriage offers the promise that there will
Be someone waiting to listen,
To console, to inspire.
Marriage is the joining of two people
Who share the promise
That only marriage can make –
To share the sunshine and the shadows,
And to experience a richer, more fulfilling life
Because of it.”
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
By a monk? Most likely John Donne.
Or The Art of a Good Marriage: http://www.churchofancientways.org/lovepoems.html
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your help. It was neither of them but thanks to all your suggestions I was able to remember and find it. Thank you!
Post # 10
@Miss_Lab: will you share it with the rest of us?