(Closed) Desperately want to whine but also feel so guilty…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@1stRosie:  I’m sorry you’re friends aren’t stepping up for you ๐Ÿ™ Try to focus on those who are there for you and your Fiance and have a good time anyway. Good luck!

Post # 4
986 posts
Busy bee

I know how incredibly difficult it is to take this advice: but enjoy the company that comes and is there for you. You will be so wrapped up in having an amazing time that you’ll only notice a tiny, tiny bit that they couldn’t make it. Enjoy your time with Fiance + friends and family! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@1stRosie:  I’m sorry to hear that! I know how it feels when it seems like everybody is too busy for something very important to you. Maybe you should call your friends and tell them how you feel. If they’re not there for you after that then at least you know that you tried how communicate your feelings. 

Even so, Miss Otter sirght. You’ll be too busy having a good time with all of tpeople me who DID come to celebrate that you’ll hardly notice.

Good luck at your engagement party, I’m sure it’ll be awesome. 


Also, not to nit pick (I’m a teacher and I couldn’t help myself) but it’s ‘like’ not ‘liek’. 

Post # 6
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I understand the urge to whine (it is really disappointing when people aren’t there for you), but I think the best thing you can do is enjoy the people who are going to be there for you.  Be grateful to them, and bask in the moment. 

But also be there for your friends who can’t be there for you right now – sounds like at least two of them are going through a crappy time, and need you as a friend right now.  You’re happy, so bask in it, and then attempt to share the generosity you receive from others with your friends who are going through a rough time.  The other bride who is too absorbed in her own wedding to be there for you?  Don’t become her!  Reach out to your friends who are going through breakups and let it be about them for a while.  They need you, and you’ll feel better about enjoying yourself knowing that they know they haven’t lost you to the wedding monster ๐Ÿ™‚

And who knows, they may be so touched by your attention, or bolstered by your efforts, that they make it to your party in the end.  I wouldn’t do it for that reason, but sometimes good things do come back around to you.

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