- 4 months ago
- Wedding: September 2020
princessanon0125 : THANK YOU holy I can’t believe the responses I’ve been reading. I’m absolutely shocked. It makes me feel like everyone who responded with that line has cheated in the past and that was how they justified it to themselves. Cheating is almost always a symptom of a bigger problem in the relationship, yes there are some people who are just straight up cheaters for no other reason, but most of the time it’s a symptom of a problem. BUT just because there’s a problem does not mean the cheating is excusable! If there was a problem you communicate, go to therapy, change your life within your relationship (if you want to stay in it), leave the relationship, find new purpose in your life, TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE maybe?? But it doesn’t excuse cheating! Like wtf am I reading here. If you want to be with someone else then leave your current relationship…”but it’s not always that simple” um yeah it is. Leave. If you don’t want to leave then sort out whatever problems you or the both of you have together WITHOUT CHEATING. I know I’m talking about complex emotions and situations but when it comes right down to it you never HAVE to cheat so there are always other ways to deal with issues.
It’s about choices. She made a very bad choice, an unjustifiable choice, and people are recommending that she just keep it a secret? Wow. It’s cheating. I fully, firmly believe if it was physical, or a man that posted, no one would recommend he keep it a secret from his spouse. Emotional affairs can hurt someone just as much, if not more than physical. And you guys come one here trying to protect her and her relationship from the things she’s done! No consideration for her husband at all. Almost all of you people have shocked and saddened me today and I don’t trust any of you to give good advice in the future anymore.