Post # 1
Ok, well I’m come to the realization that I don’t think Mrs. Crazy is going to respond to the email I sent her. Since then, she has been online a billion times (we can see that from Facebook). Perhaps she thought that my email was rude. I guess she was most definitely surprised to learn that daughter is not welcome. Here are her options:
1. Show up with her husband, as invited.
2. Decline our invitation (ohhh if I could be so lucky!)
3. Show up with her husband and daughter.
Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law thought she’d have responded by now. My biggest fear is that she’ll blatentely ignore our wishes and purchase three plane tickets prior to receiving the invitation. I need to contact her one more time to give her the URL to our website. Is there something specific you think I should say in that email? I am overreacting about daughter?
Maybe with my guest list of 200, these three crazies will just disappear into the crowd.
Post # 3
At this point, she would not be getting an invite. I’d be done. She doesn’t even have the courtesy to answer an e-mail and has blatantly disrepected you…. nope. I’d be putting my foot down. This woman is going to do nothing but cause some major trouble and drama on the day.
I understand how torn you are about all this. I’m really sorry that you are caught up in this ridiculous situation. I really hope it works out for the better for you.
Post # 4
Yeah, agree with the PP. Can’t respond to an email from the bride? Nope, sorry, you’re out. Done!
Post # 5
Wow, I can’t believe that she didn’t respond. It wasn’t like it was a group email…perhaps she just didn’t know what to say.
I’m hoping for option 1 or 2 for you. Got to give it to crazy; her pattern of unpredictable, crazy behavior is consistent. 🙂
Post # 6
I would (unfortunately) plan to have a back-up plan in case the daughter shows. Maybe like another member of the hive is thinking for her wedding of having a hostess table. So if the dreaded daughter does show up, it will be embarrassing that she doesn’t have a spot at the table (even if they RSVP for 3 people). Also maybe for just their RSVP card you could put “We have reserved 2 spots for you.”
Post # 7
OK first of all, your email wasn’t rude. It was really polite given the craziness level of the person you’re dealing with. If she buys a plane ticket for her daughter when you made it clear that you would be inviting her and her husband, IMO that’s her problem. She is well aware at this point that the daughter isn’t invited and that she shouldn’t buy a ticket for her so if she does then she’s got a reality check coming her way. Stay firm on this.
Post # 9
I completely support the way that you have handled this and sympathize with how aggravating this must be, but, I do have to agree with your note that it’s possible that the three of them will just fade into the background. Two hundred guests is a LOT of people in one space. You are fully in the right to determine who comes to your wedding and who doesn’t, and she is behaving rudely, but I would encourage you to let it go if you can find yourself able to do so. You are going to be swept up in the excitement of your day and I wouldn’t be surprised, with that many bodies in the room, if you don’t even see them once. She isn’t worth getting worked up over.
Post # 10
Your email was perfect. She deffinatly should have gotten the picture that the daughter isn’t invited. But by the way she is acting, sounds like she just doesn’t care. Hopefully she won’t bring the daughter at least out of respect for your finace if not for you. Maybe if your finace would have sent the email (or maybe he still could in some way) she would listen to him. I don’t know, this women is sooooooo disrespectful. But Im sure even if the daughter comes, you have nothing to worry about (if she is anything like her mom, lol). Good luck girl!
Post # 11
Come on, you guys! The email that VirginiaMarie (OP) sent didn’t require a response! The woman has been rude previously, but there was nothing in this particular email that needed something from her, and I don’t think it was rude not to respond to it.
That said, I think you’ve handled the situation well, and I would just leave it alone, and pray that she doesn’t show up. Send her the url, but if she hasn’t gotten the hint about the daughter, she never will. Do you have a DOC? If so, inform her that there might be some “extras” and wash your hands of it.
Post # 12
Hmm have you thought of calling her? Your e-mail was really good and should have got the message accross but she’s just plain rude and sounds like she doesn’t care. So maybe you call her and give her the URL and take the opportunity to find out what her plans are.
Post # 13
@Rocktsrgn—You may be right. I wish I had thought of that prior to sending my email. I may not be giving her enough credit. I just assumed that you would respond to an email of the bride of your “sweet son”, who was reaching out to you. Granted, Mrs. Crazy is, in fact, crazy, and she very well may have felt my email did not require a courtesy response.
I need to realx, and not let Mrs. Crazy make me feel like a bad bride. I want to get back to being awesome, happy bride! Screw Mrs. Crazy. No Christmas cards for you!
Post # 14
I just wanted to say that I believe almost any email deserves a response, I think it is very rude to not acknowledge it in some way, regardless of the situation.
Post # 15
Yikes!!! I hope she doesn’t pick option 3!!!!
Post # 16
@OP – Yeah! My main concern would be that she’s taking the joy out of this for you. And it’s difficult to apply logic to crazies, you know? =)
@acorn – I dunno. Maybe my email etiquette is lacking? But I really consider email to be an informal method of communication, and if no response is required, I don’t send one – I’ve got enough junk in my inbox! =)