Post # 1
I am OBSESSED with all things dessert so I really want to have a dessert bar at my wedding with brownies, cookies and cupcakes etc. I was thinking that since we are doing this we can just have a 2 tiered wedding cake that we cut and eat ourselves. Do you think we have to serve it to the guests if they’re getting all these other desserts?? My fiance is stuck on the traditions and wants to serve it. What do you think?
Post # 3
This is kind of what I’m talking about but with a smaller cake.
Post # 4
You can do your fancy 2-tiered cake for cutting and have a yummy sheet cake in the kitchen that you serve to guests. I mean, people might think it’s a little strange they’re not being served cake at a wedding, but since you have other desserts it shouldn’t matter.
Post # 5
We’re doing a pie buffet with a small cake for us to cut, so I had to vote “serve only dessert!” ^_^ I don’t see a problem with just serving dessert and having a small cutting cake. We’re only having the cutting cake because our families like the traditional pictures of that moment, anyways. ^_^
Post # 6
I think I would still have some wedding cake to serve. That being said, the pieces could be a lot smaller and you could account for less people wanting cake (since you have all of the other desserts)
Post # 7
I say, cut the cake and have the staff put it out on the dessert buffet so that whoever does want it can chose to have it. Not everyone will, with all the other options available, so it’s ok if there isn’t a slice for everyone.
Post # 8
You can do whatever you want! I went to a wedding that served cookies and mudslides 🙂 I would say though that if they don’t get wedding cake- don’t have a cake and definitely DONT put it out. Cucpakes are a great substutite and u have them listed.
Post # 9
I didn’t vote since neither of the options fit my stance on the idea. While people do eat and look forward to good wedding cake (the ones that are bad are made by bad bakers so don’t assume that all wedding cake is nasty because it isn’t), it is never a requirement even if that is the only dessert. Serve whatever you want. Chances are, you will have so many other desserts available that no one will miss the cake. If you’re wanting something to cut and feed each other for photo ops, you can do that with practically dessert and it’ll be just as cute, if not more so, than having cake that you don’t want for that sole purpose. However, if that’s one of the few requests he has made during the planning, give in and let him have it. It is his day too after all and he’s not there for scenery. But for that, just get a small 10″ round cake like you would find at any grocery bakery. It doesn’t have to be a regular wedding cake.
Post # 10
We are doing a similar dessert table and just getting a single tier for the traditional cake cutting. I am not planning on having that served to the guests. If your Fiance likes the tradition of it, but you think it will be too much, you could always serve it at a brunch the day after if you are thinking about doing something like that.
Post # 11
I vote to serve cake, but it can just be sheet cake cut in back. You probably don’t have to plan to have a piece for every person either. I know even with desserts, my family would still be asking “where’s the cake?” It just depends on your family I guess. Or if you make the cupcakes match your tied cake and make it obvious that that would be their cake, that would be ok too, but then you should probably be sure there’s enough for everyone. I didn’t have all of our cupcakes out, but enough for people to know it was in leui of regular cake, then when dinner was almost out the kitchen staff brought out plates of cupcakes to the tables.
If you do go the cupcake route, make sure that table is separate from the rest of the desserts or have a sign up if you want people to wait until a cake cutting moment to take them or something, or have the table set up during dinner or something, just so they aren’t grabbing stuff before you want them to.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
You definitely don’t need wedding cake, especially if you have cupcakes!
Post # 13
I would have a cake to share with everyone just because I think it’s rude to exclude your guests. I mean, you wouldn’t put out three kinds of cookies, then tell your guests they couldn’t have the chocolate chip ones because those were just for you. Or, you could do a styrafoam cake for pictures, and have the cupcakes match the general theme of your “fake cake”, just so guests don’t feel left out. JMO, of course.
Post # 14
I understand Miss Apricot’s worries surrounding leaving the guests out, but here is an alternate perpective. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding this summer at which they a dessert bar, a three tiered chocolate wedding cake, and the sheet cake for guests. It was too much food. Everyone stuffed themselves on desserts, and it was so sad because almost NONE of their beauiful cake got eaten. It was such a shame!
So in order to make it work, just try not to have TOO many desserts 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
There are no “have to’s” when planning a wedding – do what you want! I love the idea of just a dessert bar!!
Post # 16
With that many desserts though, will people really be offended if there isn’t enough cake to go around? Especially since so many people claim to hate cake served at weddings, even if they eat it at other occasions. I honestly can’t imagine why they would.
That said, if you do serve a small cake, there is no need to have a sheet cake hidden away. People don’t get offended by sheet cake sliced in front of them. But again, with all the other dessert options, the cake could easily go to waste, especially if there is extra for each guest, and you may decide you need to spend that money elsewhere instead.