(Closed) dessert bar— what if guests ruin it before we cut the cake?!

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

we aren’t putting our dessert bar out UNTIL the cake cutting. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just out of Curiosity, what is the problem with them going to the dessert bar prior to your cake cutting? do you feel it all has to coincide? To me, let them eat it. Your cake cutting seems like a separate event from the guests enjoying the dessert bar.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

My SIL had a buffet dinner and the dessert was there the whole time. Her MC announced dinner but asked guests not to touch the dessert yet. Nobody touched it until they were told to. I’m sure a sign would do fine too.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

you could always cut the cake before dinner

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re doing the same thing as Ms. Meowerson. It makes the most sense for the reason you’re concerned about and also just so that desserts (like cheesecake) aren’t sitting out all night. At the very least, you could just not put out plates & serving utensils until it is time for them to serve themselves, it should be enough of a hint.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I attended a wedding where the cupcakes were out and everyone was all into them before the cake cutting.  It didn’t really matter–the cake cutting is an event for the bride and groom.  It’s not ruined if you all don’t eat dessert at the same time.  The bride didn’t care.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Eh, I feel like yes, you are paying for it but you’re paying for it so your guests can enjoy it – the reception is a gigantic thank you for the guests and that dessert bar is for them. If you two REALLY want to see everything before anyone else, maybe you can have cocktail hour in a separate location and do a “preview” before people are let in for dinner?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I like the idea of doing the cake cutting early. Then you can get a picture of the whole arrangement while you cut, and people can visit the dessert bar when they’re done eating so no pressure time-wise.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you considered having a separate cake table for the cake you want to cut? That way the dessert table can be separate so people can help themselves whenever the want to.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Whatever you do, definitely do something to tell your guests if you don’t want them to dig in! My cousin had a cream puff cake as her wedding cake, and none of the guests knew it was “The Cake,” so they went up and started picking pieces of cream puff off of it before the bride/groom had any! All it would have taken was a sign saying “please wait to enjoy wedding cake until the bride and groom have gotten their bites!”

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t understand why this is an issue. Guests are generally not savage beasts who wreak havoc like that. It is understood by nearly everyone that you don’t touch the desserts until the couple cuts the cake, no matter what the dessert options are. No need to make any announcements or signs because it will make you look like a control freak.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Generally I agree that guests are not savage beasts. However, being on the Bee has made me think otherwise, haha. I remember reading a post about candy buffets and how guest at this one wedding totally destroyed it before the bride and groom entered the reception. I remember reading about how guests were taking 4 and 5 bags of candy, and some guests didn’t get any.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

just from a guests perspective…. NOTHING is going to keep me away from a dessert buffet….no sign, no barrier…. end of story!   haha.  if it’s there in my sight… it’s game on.  

but that’s me

i personally wouldn’t care if my guests got into the dessert “before they should”… i wouldn’t blame them at all. 

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