Post # 16
Could you move the dessert buffet away from the food and more to where you two are sitting? Velvet rope, caution tape around it? I think signs wont deter some people, especially children, or those who act like children. I wouldn’t have it set up before hand if it wasn’t near by me, especially since your cake is easily mistaken as just another desert.
Post # 17
@Lee Ann, just because something disastrous may have happened at one or three weddings, does not in any way imply that it happens at every single wedding everywhere. Alot of those bad things can be taken with a grain of salt since they really truly do not happen at the majority of weddings, and there is no sense in getting paranoid over something that won’t happen to your wedding in a million years just because a random group of people somewhere doesn’t know how to properly behave.
Post # 18
Don’t put the desserts out until everyone is busy eating their dinner, then cut the cake as the start of dessert. That’s what we did and it went perfectly. Ours was the first wedding I know of around here that actually had a Dessert buffet, and guests loved it-there was a lot more enthusiasm for it than for the open bar, strangely enough! (they’re also unheard of round here) Just make sure there’s plenty of everything. Pairs of girlfriends were taking a plate with four or five items on, to share and get to try everything.
Post # 19
I agree this is a good idea
Post # 20
I’ve seen desert buffets with a note saying that it opens at a certain time. & the MC made an announcement saying not to partake until that time.
Post # 21
I don’t believe I said it happens at every wedding, or that i was paranoid. What i did say was that it happens.
Obviously the OP doesn’t want it to happen at her wedding, and since it is a possibility she wants to prevent it in someway, thats the point of this post. Maybe there are a group of people invited to her wedding that would act this way and she knows it, that’s what prompted the question in the first place.
Post # 22
I would ask the caterers if they could bring out the dessert bar at the time that suits you. Perhpas while you’re cutting the cake, someone could be in the background setting up the dessert bar?
Post # 23
a wee bit, yes. relax, find a way to sneak in prior and admire it if you really need to. otherwise let it go and relax!! I would hope seeing your guests enjoy it at their leisure would be more gratifying than having them sitting staring at you revelling standing in a desert display thinking mine mine mine!!!!
Have your own cake displayed a little ways a way so that display is not ‘ruined’ by your guests before you get to cut the cake.
Post # 24
Cut your cake as soon as u hit the reception. I have told several brides that when I have helped out with weddings. I made a cake for a friend’s son’s wedding. It was 5 teirs with fondant. They waited for 2 hours into the reception to cut the cake. Do you know how much cake was left over? Over half! They waited so long that 3/4 of their guests have left and the rest were just about too full to eat cake. And I know its not my cake being bad bc I get many repeat requests for my cakes. lol
Anywho, if you cut your cake at the beginning of the reception, you get these benefits:
less cake leftover
people that need to leave early can get their cake on before they go
your makeup still looks good for photos
it won’t matter about the dessert bar
Good Luck and Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 25
I would say a sign and a dj announcement would be good. I was just at a wedding with cupcakes and lots of people were just grabbing cupcakes before the bride and groom even entered the reception!
Post # 26
I agree that a sign & maybe a DJ announcement will work. And I will add that I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting your guests to wait to dig into the desserts! It’s your party, so you set the timeline for when you want things to happen. Yeah, the party may be FOR your guests, but that doesn’t mean you don’t get a choice in when things happen.. hell, you’re paying for it. Is there any way that you can have the dessert bar put out just before or after the cake cutting?