Post # 1
Some of you saw my post yesterday regarding my stress about having to pay for half of the wedding now, and I was feeling stressed about the amount of guests coming (200) and what the cost would be.
I brainstormed with my mom, and we decided a dessert reception in the evening with dancing would be ideal!
The issue is, I am having an issue with the timing. Obviously it needs to start in the later evening, so here’s what I was thinking (including my problems..)
6:30 pm ceremony start
7:00 pm photos
7:00 pm **what should my guests do while we do pictures??
7:45 pm Bride and groom announced
8:00 pm First dance and F/D dance, M/S dance
8:30 pm Cake cutting, beginning of cocktails and dessert reception/dancing
Here’s where the problem is…in Napa County, the noise ordinance states that you MUST be finished with the music by 10pm. Am I cutting it too close?
We thought, to avoid the evening noise ordinance issue, that maybe we should do the wedding starting at 1pm, and ending whenever.
What do you think???
Post # 3
I would probably opt for the 1pm start time.
Because having a dessert only reception that starts at 6:30 is not ideal. That is dinner time for many people and therefore they may be put out that you are only serving dessert.
Also, weddings tend to run late and currently you only have an hour and half for the main reception before you have to shut down due to noise laws. I think the afternoon reception would be a lot more relaxed and fun in this case!
Post # 4
I agree with Future Mrs Martin, a 1pm start would make things much more manageable. I’m doing a similar timeline as you posted with my heavy apps reception, but we have until 1am at our venue.
Post # 5
I agree that you should have a 1pm start time because I would definitely be expecting dinner in the time frame you have.
Post # 6
I would do the 1pm start. I feel like you’re cutting it too close.
Post # 7
What if instead of dessert you had a cocktail party? With just hors d’ourves. Honestly, I think with your current timing your guests will be starving for dinner. I think if you just do heavy passed dishes and maybe a station or two you’ll manage.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone else – your wedding takes place at dinner time. If you aren’t going to serve dinner, you need it to start at a different time. 1PM would be great. Or, later. An 8pm wedding would work.
Post # 9
Yep, I’m totally on the same page as the rest of the bees. Your reception is basically at dinner time, so I think you’ll need something more than dessert. If you do hors d’oeuvres instead of dessert though, make sure and check with your venue on how many pieces per person you get, because your guests may KILL the hors d’oeuvres and you don’t want to run out! Whatever you do, make sure and put on your invitations “dessert reception to follow” or “cocktail reception to follow” to clearly identify that you aren’t serving dinner so guests know to eat before they come!
Post # 10
@napabridekelsey:Different perspective. I’m a guest at your weeding, I buy a gift, maybe a new dress and get may makeup done to come to your event! Yay:0) Just sweets? No food? Is it possible to scale the guestlist back to 150 and serve them some appetizers or something? Instead of an open bar maybe you could serve beer, white wine, red wine and bubbly for the toast. Do you think guests will possibly leave early to eat? Also, have you considered the guest getting a little too tipsy from drinks without food on their stomach? This is just a thought from an outside person;0)
Post # 11
I’ve really thought about this, and I’m going to do whatever I can to start the wedding around 6:30 pm. I’m going to put a call into the county’s office to see if I can have a noise permit to have the event noise go later. Hopefully there’s such thing!
We’ve also decided that we should do passed hors d’oeuvres for most of the party, and then have a lavish dessert station set up at around 8:30 p.m.
If I do the daytime wedding, I’m super nervous it’ll be too hot, and that it’ll take away from the ‘swanky cocktail party’ feel that I’m looking for.
Am I still being unreasonable??
Thank you 🙂
Post # 12
i think heavy hors d’oeuvres are definitely better than dessert at this time! I would just let your guests know that a full meal won’t be provided either by word of mouth or put “Cocktail reception immediately following” on the invitation.
Post # 13
I think 1pm would be wonderful with a dessert hour around 3pm.
I’m pregnant and wouldn’t like to go that amount of time without a proper meal! My husband likes his food and would probably leave early to have dinner elsewhere. Generally hors d’oeuvres go quickly that time of night from my experience because everyone is hungry!