(Closed) Dessert Reception?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

there was a bride on four weddings who had a dessert only reception…and the girls ended up ordering a pizza!

i guess if you have bodget constraints then…thats fine but if your wedding is going to be an all day thing then you should at least provide some apps….or sandwiches. all that sweet food can upset someone tummy!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If people are coming from out of town they will be hungry. If you can only afford dessert just keep in mind that some of the guests wont stay as long as you hoped

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m having a dessert reception, but I’ll also have non-sweet foods like a meat/cheese platter and tea sandwiches.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I WISH I could do a dessert only reception, but my fiance won’t allow me to haha. Nothing wrong with it at all, I’d love to go to a dessert only reception ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

As long as it is clearly stated on the invitation and it is not during lunch or dinnertime, it is fine.  If you are having it between 1-4, know that people will clear out when they start to get hungry for dinner.    

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just saw that episode Friday too! I would also have some other type of food, becuase if you eat only desserts then you could end up getting a belly ache or headache. Maybe some fruit or veggie platters, or cheese and crackers. Also maybe be sure to let the guests know it will be dessert only so they won’t be expecting “real” food.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

Im guessing that it will be summer there? and hot, so i dont think ppl will mind, i never feel like having big meals when its hot.. Plus i love love love dessert! its my favourite meal of the day lol! I would love to come to a dessert only wedding!

if its 1-4 its only 3hrs so i think ppl woudnt mind.. are you havng a break between the wedding and reception? maybe you could put a little note that says while we are getting photos it may be a great time for you to grab a bit of lunch, and we’ll meet for out dessert reception at blah blah blah.. that way ppl know you dont expect them to be really hungry and wanting more… also i wouldnt expect any different treatment if i was coming from oot, they would have to get their own lunch if they wernt coming.. lol

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If it’s just an afternoon reception, then dessert should be fine. It’s more like a “cake and punch” reception. Just as long as the time your guests spend with you doesn’t cross over any mealtimes. The only problem might be lunch. Is the wedding in the morning, and the reception in the afternoon? If so, you might want to put out sandwiches and non-sweet foods as well, or people might get really cranky (especially people who are in photos, and won’t have time to pop out for some lunch between the ceremony and reception)!

Post # 13
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Worker bee

@mile end:  the “cake and punch” reception(heehee!)

 

everyone these days chalks up everything to feeding your guests…but man, when i hear my grandparents talk about their wedding(s)!!!

my mammaw, married an Army boy ๐Ÿ™‚  they got married at a chapel real quick in their hometown, with their siblings and parents, and each chose their best 2 friends to be there. you’re talking about 20 people(hey, i got 73 1ST AND 2ND COUSINS!)…M mammaw made her own cake, they toasted with orange juice and punch, champagne and screw drivers…3 hours later, my pappaw was on a bus to be deployed to war.

my mat-grandmother, married in her mom’s living room, with her granparents, mom, and brother, my bio-g’pa(loser to us lol), his parents and brother…

my grandmothers 2nd wedding to my “real” grandfather(i claim this one lol), they both wore baby blue(it was ’83 lol), they had $4k, got married in their OWN backyard, had cake, bbq, and beer…

my mom got married August 13, 2010…she had 50 guests, got married at 7pm on that Friday, we had cake, punch, and veggie trays.

friends of ours got married back at Christmas. and to save money on themselves and guests, they got married on a Sunday, in their church(no evening services), and had pot roast that varied. each mom/aunt/grandmother and the bride, all displayed their pot roast skills ๐Ÿ™‚ there was meat, baked potatos, and rolls and a cake. the entire congregation was there(upwards of 150), plus another 80 people invited who didn’t go to the church. 230 people, got fed by spending about $500, and they even had “real china and glasses and forks”…lmao, we’re so redneck, i had to throw that out there ๐Ÿ™‚

 

today, we as guests automatically think that a wedding entails a ceremony followed by a reception that HAS to have food. and it doesn’t. we were invited to share in their UNION, not make them feed us.

therefore, OP, i think if OPENLY advertise it is desserts only, no one should be confused. i eat lunch myself around noon cos my 2 year old does, we eat dinner about 630pm cos thats when daddy is done cleaning up after work.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@JessLee83: haha, maybe that’s a Canadian/British term. When I reread it though, it does sound like you get a slice of cake than someone slugs you in the face. Talk about a non-traditional reception!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m in the camp that if I am going to go to a wedding, wear a dress, buy a gift, and potentially have to travel, a meal should be served.  sorry  :[

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

As long as you keep it short, its not at a meal time, and you let guests know it should be ok. But realize that people will leave when they are hungry for real food. But i do think you sould have some sandwiches or something, since not everyone can eat sweets.

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