Destinalopement ceremony?

posted 5 months ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is the term for a couple traveling to get married alone, with full knowledge of family/friends?
    That's definitely an elopement! : (6 votes)
    25 %
    No, it's a destination wedding since you are traveling to a new destination. : (0 votes)
    Actually, that's called a private ceremony :) : (17 votes)
    71 %
    None of those options are right and I'll tell you why in the comments... : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    If everyone knows before you do it, it’s a private ceremony. If you say “we eloped!” on your reception invitations it would indicate that this is a surprise to the person receiving the invitation. 

    Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    It sounds as if you don’t have to worry about a specific term for this, since you’re not inviting guests to the private, destination wedding.

    You would be sending wedding announcements to announce your marriage and/or invitations for guests to attend a celebration of your marriage.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

    This is what we did. married abroad, party a month later. But we sent out the invites about 4 months in advance because some people were travelling across the country to attend our little reception. 

    On our invites for the reception I wrote “X and Y will be married in a private ceremony at Location” 

    Some people call it a weddingmoon 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I’m doing something very similar. We don’t plan to send out invitations until we get back from our trip. We are hoping to use a picture a photographer took to make a post-card like picture including our wedding picture. It may be neat to share that way first with clsoe friends and family before posting all the pictures on social media. That way they feel special. As for the definition… the term elopement has evolved over time and is pretty controversial. When I hear “private ceremony” I think of a very small wedding with up to 20 or so guests. I have been calling our wedding an elopement because it will just be us. Though it hasn’t entirely been a secret we still get asked pretty frequently by friends when the wedding is because they think we’re having a traditional one. The terminology is totally up to you! 

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We called it elopement or planned elopement or just wedding when talking to his family. To my family and friends we just said that we are going to get married with only the two of us being there. The term in elopement in the cultures I grew up still only means “to elope” as in running away and getting married without the parents permission and therefore is actually almost unused these days. Because who needs their parents permission to get married (in western culture)

    I hear weddingmoon as well but somehow I thought sandals came up with that term for one of their packages. I’d go with what sounds best on your invitations.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Changing my answer to private ceremony. I missed the part about people knowing beforehand.

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