Post # 1
Please help me get my terminology right! I’m soon-to-be-engaged (just waiting on the ring to be finished!) and planning on traveling out of the country for a wedding with my future fiance. Our families are on the opposite ends of the country, neither of us wants to plan a wedding, and it’s just more us. I plan on holding a party for my large family (on my side alone there are more than 100 people) when we return, and I want to send invites before we leave both announcing our upcoming marriage and the date for the party afterwards, since it will be soon after we get back. The problem is, I am not quite sure how to describe this, and there doesn’t seem to be a general consensus. So, please help me not make a fool of myself! 🙂
Post # 2
If everyone knows before you do it, it’s a private ceremony. If you say “we eloped!” on your reception invitations it would indicate that this is a surprise to the person receiving the invitation.
Post # 3
It sounds as if you don’t have to worry about a specific term for this, since you’re not inviting guests to the private, destination wedding.
You would be sending wedding announcements to announce your marriage and/or invitations for guests to attend a celebration of your marriage.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
This is what we did. married abroad, party a month later. But we sent out the invites about 4 months in advance because some people were travelling across the country to attend our little reception.
On our invites for the reception I wrote “X and Y will be married in a private ceremony at Location”
Some people call it a weddingmoon
Post # 5
I’m doing something very similar. We don’t plan to send out invitations until we get back from our trip. We are hoping to use a picture a photographer took to make a post-card like picture including our wedding picture. It may be neat to share that way first with clsoe friends and family before posting all the pictures on social media. That way they feel special. As for the definition… the term elopement has evolved over time and is pretty controversial. When I hear “private ceremony” I think of a very small wedding with up to 20 or so guests. I have been calling our wedding an elopement because it will just be us. Though it hasn’t entirely been a secret we still get asked pretty frequently by friends when the wedding is because they think we’re having a traditional one. The terminology is totally up to you!
Post # 6
We called it elopement or planned elopement or just wedding when talking to his family. To my family and friends we just said that we are going to get married with only the two of us being there. The term in elopement in the cultures I grew up still only means “to elope” as in running away and getting married without the parents permission and therefore is actually almost unused these days. Because who needs their parents permission to get married (in western culture)
I hear weddingmoon as well but somehow I thought sandals came up with that term for one of their packages. I’d go with what sounds best on your invitations.
Post # 7
Changing my answer to private ceremony. I missed the part about people knowing beforehand.