Post # 1
So I have to help coordinate my own bachelorette party because I have friends from different phases of my life and they are not all friends with/know each other. And it will have to be a destination since no matter where I have it since some people will have to travel – and I thought if I’m making some people travel, maybe everyone can travel (to be fair) and go some place nice (maybe Mexico? Vegas? Puerto Rico?). I haven’t decided when to go (because where we go will also affect my decision).
I am willing to pay for my own costs since I am making people travel. What do you think would be reasonable in terms of cost? I don’t know the exact financial situation of every one of my friends so I’m just asking for estimates.
Does anybody else have experiences dealing with similar situations? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks bees in advance!!
Post # 3
@sweetlittlebee: I can say that my sister was in the same position as you and wanted to do a destination bachelorette party and it did not go well with everyone else. It’s way more expensive to go on a destination bachelorette party then to have to travel to your home town get a hotel for much cheaper and just go out a night on the town. Just keep that in mind if anyone objects to your idea.
Post # 4
I would ask your friends what they are comfortable with spending on a bachelorette trip, ask yourself what you’re comfortable with spending and where you’d like to go, and then be prepared that some people will not be able to make the trip. My bachelorette trip to NYC ended up being around $800-$1000+ per person. It was a lot to ask of everybody, but 4 out of the 7 people I invited where able to go (only one of those that did not attend had to do with finances however, the other was timing/being able to take that many days off).
Out of those who came, only 2 knew each other but were not friends. All my friends are sweet and non-drama for the most part, so I knew the group would get along. We were all the same age, but my friends ranged from childhood friend, high school friend, college friend, and post-college friend. I paid for my flight, my share of accomodation cost (we rented a penthouse apt in the city), and some of my meals (my friends treated me to the rest).
My destination bachelorette trip was a lot of fun and I don’t regret it! It would have been great if everyone could have attended, but I had a lot of fun with those who did!
If you have a lot of girls, obviously the cost would be cheaper. My Fiance, for instance, is doing his bachelor party this weekend in Vegas and he’s only paying for his flight. He’s got 12 friends going and they’re pitching in for his room, food, and any events they go to. I would not have asked my four friends who attended my bachelorette to do that — it would be too much!! One of my bridesmaids is going to a bachelorette trip to Cabo and she said it was only $600 and that was all-inclusive. Certain destinations obviously will be cheaper than others! I wrote a lot… hope it helps 🙂
Post # 5
I think it depends where you live, where the girls are coming from and what the budget is.
I’ve seen bachelorette parties in NYC and Miami (I would say Miami is probably cheaper than say Mx). I’ve heard Austin is a great city to go to and party (I’ve never been though). I could have more suggestions if I knew where everyone was, though.
Post # 6
I’ve been to one technically DBP and my upcoming Bridal Party will be a destination. For the one I was a guest at, we met in Providence RI, the brides college town. All of the girls except me and 1 other girl from Chicago are living on the east coast. All of the other girls are in DC, NYC, and Boston with one still in Providence. Thanks to some good planning and a little bit of luck it was under 200 per girl. That said, my Bridal Party is going to be in the finger lakes region of NY which is a somewhat DBP (about a 4 hour drive for most bridal party minus Maid/Matron of Honor who is in GA). We are renting a cabin and a limo for wine tours. In all it may cost around 250-300 per person (6-7 girls in total) and my Maid/Matron of Honor won’t let me pay anything. That said, if money wasn’t going to be a major factor for my guests I would have chosen Vegas. You can really get there/do a lot of things cheaply depending on the time of year and the number of people going (smartervegas is a great website). I don’t necessarily have advice except to do what you want within reason and don’t settle somehwere. DBP are common now and nothing to feel guilty about.
Post # 7
@arabesque: Yeah, I think I will just have to ready that not all people will make it (I know 2 out of 7 can’t make it no matter what because they are overseas). I will definitely look into Cabo though – I can’t believe it! $600 for al-inclusive! Thank you for the ideas 🙂
Post # 8
@futuremrsk18: They are everywhere (east coast, west coast, midwest, overseas). I’m leaning towards doing something in a tropical destination though – so Mexico, DR, Carribeans…etc. I like the idea of doing all-inclusive because then everybody would know the cost up-front. But I’m still open to any suggestions you might have for me. Thanks!
Post # 9
Ask them for their budgets and opinions. If they give you a certain amount they can spend and then you choose a destination that just really doesn’t mesh well with their personalities (like if they’re homebodies but you choose Vegas, or if they’re raging sorority girls but you choose a very quiet little town), they might also back out. But start with what they are willing to spend – that makes a HUGE difference if you really want them to be there!
Post # 10
@sweetlittlebee: Well, I would still consider Miami – it has a beautiful beach and it is party central. It would be PERFECT for a bachelorette party. I do think that they -surprisingly- have AIs there b/c I really feel like I remember seeing one and going, “Since when are there AIs in FL??” so you could look into that. I’ve been to Miami – specifically, South Beach (Ocean Drive) several times and it’s always fun.
If you’re looking for affordable AIs – check out Punta Cana in the DR. You can find some really gorgeous AIs there for a really good deal. I’m not sure which ones will let you have more than 2 people in a room – I know they must exist, but I just don’t know wihch ones they are. I would start off with tripadvisor to see which AIs there are and how good they are. I swear by that site.
Your other option is livingsocial and groupon – they always have great deals to AI places all the time. And, if 4 people buy, 1 person gets it free or something like that. So, depending on how many girls you have, you guys can bring the price down even more (instead of having someone get it “free” you can just divide the cost-I hope I’m making sense here). The way I would approach this is I would ask the ladies how much they’re comfortable spending on an AI for 1 night and then I would check LS and Groupon every day for a good deal that is in that price range. As soon as I find something good, I would send an email out to all the girls to confirm – then buy it first and share it with the other girls. If you have 8 girls, I’d have 2 people buy it first and then share – so you get 2 free groupons. Anyway – I’m sure you’ll figure that all out. 🙂
Affordable AIs are also in Mx – I’ve been to Riviera Maya and it’s great and my sis goes to Cancun every year, but I have been looking and will say that you can get better quality hotels in Punta Cana – if you’re not going the LS/Groupon route anyway. And Punta Cana has one of the nicest beaches in the Carib.