(Closed) Destination Bachelorette Party – Invitee Problems

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
Member
7455 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

View original reply
evagria :  Honestly this is my major issue with social media. If you don’t want her to go, don’t invite her. Likewise if you keep the festivities off of social media she won’t even know she’s not invited.

Post # 3
Member
26 posts
Newbee

I would just be honest and tell her that you thought it’d be best if it was a group of friends who were all close? Easier said than done, I’m sure. Or just tell her your bridesmaids planned it and they didn’t know..? 

Post # 4
Member
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I agree with starfish0116. I don’t post anything about the wedding on IG or FB because I really don’t want drama with the girlfriends who weren’t asked to be in the wedding party. I would honestly just not talk to her about it, and as hard as it can be, don’t post pics from the bachelorette party until like, after the wedding. She might not even put it together that it was your bachelorette party. Plus, it’s kind of rude to her to expect an invite or call you out about it. There’s no rule saying that you have to invite every woman in your life to attend your bridal festivities. 

Post # 5
Member
13715 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think you are asking for some of this drama. Why would you post a photo of your Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts on social media? That should have been kept personal and private. Your FI’s cousin just said what everyone else was likely thinking.

Post # 7
Member
26 posts
Newbee

I do agree that not posting anything on social media is the ideal option, but if you have friends like mine, that’s not so easy lol. You can determine what you post, but not them. And I’m sure for your bachelorette party, especially since it’s a destination (I assume somewhere really fun), that could be hard to make sure a group of 11 don’t post anything. Plus they’re all adults too, so you can’t really dictate their posts. 

Post # 11
Member
5661 posts
Bee Keeper

Can’t you put her on restricted on Facebook?

Post # 13
Member
1062 posts
Bumble bee

Don’t give this a second thought or let it stress you out.  You rarely hang out so don’t invite her. Let her do her thing while you do your own thing. 

Post # 14
Member
1012 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Really? *Everyone else* was thinking “where’s my invite to be a bridesmaid from this woman I’m not friends with?” I think very few people were thinking that. And she would have found out sooner or later that she wasn’t a bridesmaid. 

 

OP, you should not have to plan your life around someone who you’re not close to being unreasonable. Don’t tell her about the party. If she asks tell her it’s friends only. She doesn’t speak to or see you so she knows she’s not a friend. If she uses abusive language leave/ignore. If her mother uses abusive language leave/ignore. Your SO should acknowledge you up for not putting up with rude unreasonable verbally abusive people.  

Post # 15
Member
13715 posts
Honey Beekeeper

View original reply
evagria :  She may have asked “where’s my invite” not because she seriously actually expected to be asked but tongue in cheek and to make the point that others are reading. Likewise she does not necessarily expect to be invited to your out of town bachelorette. 

It’s hard to know from your examples if she’s thinks she’s being irreverent and funny, intentionally obnoxious, or both. 

The topic ‘Destination Bachelorette Party – Invitee Problems’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors