(Closed) Destination Bachelorette Party Paying For Bride????

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 19
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s just weird. For my bachelorette party, the girls and I went up to Austin and got a condo on 6th Street, and it was still only $95 apiece for the condo for six people. Drinks and everything were more, but I didn’t expect them to pay for mine or anything like that. Only three of the bridesmaids (of five) were able to make it, and that was perfectly fine with me. I don’t want anyone going into debt over my wedding. 

Post # 20
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sandydee79:  I’m not sure what demographic she’s from, in certain circles this would be accepted without batting an eye, but in many this would be exgravagent. 

I’m not sure why you accepted an offer to be a bridesmaid for someone you haven’t seen in many years and aren’t particularly close to though….

I would bow out from the whole thing if I were you–it sounds like they are expecting a level of commitment that you aren’t willing to give–not that I blame you, I would feel the same way–I would only spend that if it was a very close friend or a family member

Post # 21
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree that these types of expectations for a bridesmaid are completely unreasonable. 

To me, an Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid commits to purchasing her own dress (and possibly shoes), attending the rehearsal, and helping the bride on the day of the wedding. If feasible, the Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids should host some type of shower for the bride, but it need not be an expensive one.  As for a bachelorette party, I did not have one, but, if I had, I would have wanted to go out for a nice dinner with my girlfriends and maybe go back to someone’s house afterward to hang out and talk or watch a movie.  It’s one thing if some friends choose to take the bride on a cruise. However, it should not ever be expected that committing to be in someone’s wedding would involve these types of additional, grandiose expenditures.

Post # 22
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s completely unreasonable for the Maid/Matron of Honor to expect you to fork over $500+ for a trip you were not informed of or agreed to. I agree with pp’s who said to rsvp “no” and send only what you feel comfortable for the bride’s shower “gift,” if you send anything at all!

Post # 23
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I might be in the minority here but here, the bride does not pay for the bachelorette party.  At all.  It doesn’t matter if it’s in town just drinks and dancing or out of town weekend, everyone chips in for her.


a) It’s not right that you can’t afford to go and you are still expected to pay for her.  If you aren’t going, you don’t chip in.

b) Everyone who’s going chips in for the bride.  Not just the bridesmaids!  Every lady gives a little bit.


That’s how it works in my circle.

Post # 24
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I agree that the bride should not pay for anything for the bachelorette, but I think its really unreasonable to just announce the bachelorette party plans without consulting with the wedding party. discussing budgets etc.

Anyways, glad that you backed out of the wedding party. Sounds like the best option.

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