Post # 1
Out of curiosity, are many of you destination bee’s having bachelorettes that require travel? For instance, a weekend in Vegas and a wedding in Mexico (assuming you’re from neither of those places)?
I have been asked to attend a destination bachelorette at an expensive location, and then attend the short(ish) notice destination wedding in Mexico this summer. I find this to be a lot, but maybe I’m just being cheap?
Post # 3
I had too…Wedding was in New York (I am from Vancouver) and Bachelorette in L.A/Palm Springs…..It was a lot finacially…but it was a great time and memories I will have for a life time. If you cant fiancially do both then just be up front with the Bride. I came for only half the L.A/Palm Springs trip to save and everrything worked out fine in the end.
Post # 4
No, in fact anyone I know who had a destination wedding made it a point to have the shower, bachelorette, and other festivities local so that those of us who couldn’t make it to the destination wedding could at least celebrate with the couple at these events. I suppose if the couple has a small (and wealthy) circle of friends and family who are willing and able to travel for both it’s ok, but it would bother me if I really wanted to celebrate and couldn’t afford it.
Post # 5
My bridesmaids and I were discussing this around the holidays actually…we are going to do either a night out a few weeks before we travel to the DW, something fairly low key or a night out/bachelorette one of the first nights during the week long vacay at the resort we’re getting married, because a. I’m frugal and b. they are too. 🙂
I think it’s too much that a destination bachelorette is planned and then a destination wedding in Mexico. I wouldn’t go to both personally. It’s asking a LOT.
Post # 6
Oh, man! That sounds SUPER expensive! I bet it’s fun if you can afford it, though!
Post # 7
i’m having a destie wedding and i wouldn’t dream of having a destination bachelorette! i didn’t even want a bachelorette because i thought it was just too much for everyone. my girlfriends threw me an amazing shower/bachelorette that was really great and hopefully pretty low cost for those in attendance. people have also mentioned having a girls night one of the nights of the trip too but i don’t want to take up that much of people’s time on the trip! i won’t say no if they force the issue though 😉
even if i could afford it, i might not attend the bachelorette outta principle. that is asking A LOT of guests and i think it’s pretty wild.
Post # 8
That’s a lot to ask of people. I already get annoyed with destination bachelortte parties (that require flights) so to add a destination wedding soon after that is even worse.
Post # 9
Okay, it seems most people are on the same page – only when necessary is it a good option.
My own wedding is not a destination, but it does require a hotel room and I didn’t want to do a travel bachelorette to avoid undue costs for my BM and friends. I am mostly annoyed that my FSIL is even asking!
Post # 10
@Caddyshack: I had a destiantion wedding in the caribbean and I would never dream of asking pelple to pay for a destination bachelorette also!! Thats waayyyy to much to ask of people and way too much money!
Post # 11
@Caddyshack: More than likely, I WILL be having a destination bachelorette, but only because my closest girlfriends are spread out all over the states. Two of them specifically have mentioned wanting to go to Vegas or Tahoe. I think Santa Fe, NM would be fun. If they’re offering, I probably won’t decline…I’m super laid-back, so having mine at a waterpark in Texas would be a blast for me. LOL.
Post # 12
I am going to note that sometimes it is not up to the Bride… let me explain. I am having a destination wedding in Greece. I do not have a bridal party as I am going super traditional, but two of my best friends have stepped up and are planning my bachelorette party.
I spoke to them both and explained that because it is a destination wedding, the bachelorette should be local. I also did ask that we not do the whole club scene — I am in my early 30s and have outgrown the whole stuffed in a bar and getting drinks spilled on me. Not to say I didn’t enjoy my 20s!!! Oh also asked for no strip joint… half naked dancing men don’t look hot to me.
Now fast forward… I think the group of gals have discussed it and a destination bachelorette is still being considered. Hummm… I have to let this go, otherwise I will enter into the controlling/demanding Bride category.
Post # 13
@MrsTickledPink: I can totally see this as being legit. It’s not like you’re the impetus behind the decision, it’s what works for your friends best. Your wedding sounds awesome BTW.
In this case people are already stressed about the cost/ travel for the weddind and now she’s asking this (and it was her idea).
Post # 14
I’m having a domestic destination wedding and we’re doing the separate bachelor & bachelorette parties as destination events (same destinations) right before the wedding. It worked out that way because a lot of our friends live in different places, but are very excited about our destination. I’d feel bad to not do this b/c some of my friends, especially bridal party, would want to fly to me for a “local” bachelorette party which would just be paying for an extra plane ticket for a night that would be nowhere near as fun as the destination party will be.
But, yeah, I wouldn’t do a destination wedding with a separate time and destination bachelorette party.
Post # 15
It sounds fun, but definitely a lot to ask of your friends. I am having enough guilt asking people to travel for our wedding. I’d never ask them to travel for a bachelorette party too!
Post # 16
Not only would I not go to a destimation bachelorette AND a destination wedding for the same bride, I’d seriously wonder if she had a screw loose. That’s entirely too much to ask of anyone unless you’re paying for all your guests’ expenses.