Post # 46
futuremrs2020 : thanks! I was hoping others would feel this way, I know I’ve gone to tons of weddings where we’ve flown across the country, paid for our own hotel and of course given gifts and I would have been ecstatic if someone had even offered to help out with accommodations. I was viewing it as “hopefully this will help some people out, if they choose to decline the offer then they would’ve payed for their own hotel if they choose to come anyways”. From the point of money and room/bed restrictions I’d never be upset with someone else for choosing what made them happy on their special day. I’ve never been upset to not receive wedding invitations or no plus ones to weddings because none of it is about me on someone else’s wedding day
Post # 47
mrborel : i was not talking about SOs (must be invited to the wedding) or plus ones; just about how to manage logistics of invites to the house.
Post # 48
zl27 : thanks I appreciate that! We know we will have SO’s, which is fine but I appreciate the feedback on how to coordinate. I only meant that as, I’m not a fan of crowds and have a hard time being myself and being open with people I don’t know. If I had my way we’d elope in another country so it’s hard for me to picture a small intimate wedding with less than 50 guests and not knowing the person. I’ve accepted that’s the way it is but I’ve always hated going to weddings when I don’t know the couple well. I’m sure most people don’t feel the way I do, which I’ve realized through this thread which is also fine. I think a wedding should be what the bride and groom wants, they’re paying for it, it’s a “free party” for the people attending, and you’re there because the bride and groom want you to be apart of their special day celebrating their love. All my opinion of course, since I know many others have a different opinion from this.