Post # 1
My fiance and I are seriously frustrated here. We both decided way before we were even engaged that we want a destination wedding. I have a bit of social anxiety and would NEVER have a home wedding. We would have to invite way too many people and I would be a mess. Anyways, we have been engaged for 4 months now and can’t seem to find a place to have the wedding and reception and I look everyday. We would prefer a beach, privacy, and easy travel for guests. No huge resort and preferably a US teritory. We are only going to have 40 people. Ideally, we want to have the ceremony and reception in the same spot. We were given, what I think, is a generous budget from our parents. I refuse to ask for anything extra. However, we can’t find anywhere to have this wedding under 20K!!! And that’s just the ceremony and reception, no travel. For 40 people, there is no way we should be spending this much. Am I missing something? Does anyone have a venue recommendation? Is this typical? We’re about to give up.
Post # 2
How destination are you going? Is there an area around you that would work?
Post # 3
We are having ours at a resort and we’re not spending more than 7k! Any reason you don’t want to do it at a resort? They mostly have really good wedding packages, it’s all-inclusive and everything gets set up and organized for you. It’s a really good deal imo and there are many very gorgeous locations! 🙂
Post # 4
What part of the country are you in? You said US territory – are you opposed to continental US? Lots of beaches on both coasts to choose from. Let us know where you live (or which coast is closer) and we can make more informed suggestions.
Post # 5
We are getting married at the Royal Lahaina Resort in Maui its costing around $10,000.
Post # 6
We live in Ohio. We were looking for something laid back, but elegant I guess. We really wanted Puerto Rico. Found the perfect place there called Villa Montana, that fit our wants perfectly. After pricing it out, it is ends up being something like 260/head without photography or bar. Also looked in Key West with similar results.
Post # 7
Oh i must add, privacy is my biggest factor in this… that’s why I’m not interested in a huge resort. I really don’t like crowds.
Post # 8
If privacy is the major concern, have you considered somewhere other than a beach? Mountain, lake, etc.?
We got married in Florida (at a museum that was open to the public), and we were intially looking for a domestic honeymoon location with a beach and a bit of privacy. Nope, not happening—they were all super expensive.
Or if you’re really set on a beach, does it have to be a *warm* beach? My cousin got married in Cape Cod last October and the beach was pretty much deserted, but that’s because it wasn’t really beach weather.
Post # 9
Where is this magical $7k resort??? I want to get married there!
Post # 10
There is no need to travel to a destination. Have a local wedding and only invite those 40 people.
If anyone tells you that extra people should be invited, say “No, it’s a small wedding”. If they are rude enought to insist, say “Sorry, it’s not your wedding and you’re not paying, so it’s not your decision”.
Learning that simple word “no” will save you many thousands of dollars.
Post # 11
that also has the advantage of not burdening your guests with travel expenses, time off from work, etc.
Post # 12
We’re getting married in Hawaii and granted our wedding is smaller than yours, but we’re just renting a big house. Have you looked into private estates/houses? We got ours on vrbo.
Post # 13
Look into the resorts on Hilton Head Island, SC! It’s continental US, but Hilton Head is pretty quiet and laid back – but has some gorgeous properties! I just got an RFP from Sonesta, and they were reasonably priced.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone! No, i don’t want to go there with a hometown wedding. Since we aren’t financing this ourselves, I don’t imagine it’d be an easy situation telling our parents that no, I don’t want to invite all these other people they’d insist on having if it were local. And frankly, if we were to pay for this all ourselves it’d be a decade before we could have it. I just can’t believe we can’t have a simple ceremony and dinner/dancing somewhere for one day with our budget. I’m not looking at Ritz Carlton properties! Tried looking on VRBO, couldn’t seem to find anything in puerto rico or Forida. Didn’t look at Hilton head. Is it warm there in October still? We do want a “warm” beach.
Post # 15
I live in and got married in kw this summer. I did under 20k for 50 people.