Post # 1
My fiancee and I are going to have our ceremony at our resort (Dreams) in Mexico but are unsure if we want to have a reception.
We’re both really casual people and idea of having a sit-down, plated dinner makes me uncomfortable.
I would much rather that after the ceremony, we change into our comfortable, beachy clothes and rally eveyone together for taxis and go into town for drinks and food (in which my fiancee and I will foot the bill).
Is it wrong to assume that all of our guests will be comfortable with leaving the resort grounds?
And is it rude to have people come so far only for a 15 minute ceremony?
PS- I should mention that we pre-positioed our guests that our wedding will be a casual ceremony and “week-long reception”.
Post # 3
Is your wedding small enough that you could ask around and see if people would be comfortable leaving the resort? I think it’s nice of you to consider the possibility that they might not be…
That being said- yes you do have to have a reception… it is how you thank the guests for being there at your ceremony. However, this does not have to be a big stuffy plated meal. If your ceremony is at a non-meal time, you can get away with having drinks & appetizers. If your guests are ok with going into town, you are perfectly ok to host dinner & drinks at whatever restaurant/bar/establishment you end up using. As long as you host something for them after the ceremony, you are ok 🙂
Post # 3
I would ask the opinion of any guests you may not be sure about eg. grandma or aunt with young kids ect. I dont think you need a huge seated dinner but maybe a bite of cake on the beach then drinks in town sounds great.
Post # 4
You can still have the type of party atmosphere at the resort vs a sit-down meal. We had the option of hosting our reception at the hotel bar or on the more formal patio for dinner, and we opted for dinner because thats what worked for us. Find out what your resort is willing to work with you on that one! If you do go downtown I would rent more secure transportation for a taxi though and make sure guests have an easy (and not forced to pay-way) to get back to the resort at the end of the night. More logistics and things to take care of ahead of time.
Post # 5
Most of our guest expressed they would rather have dinner at one of the restaurants on the resort with us. Especially since some will only be there a day before the wedding and leaving the day after. I don’t blame them it is and expensive place to stay and they want to relax and enjoy the conveniance of having everything right there. Least a 30 min reception after we would not get to have our first dance and things in a friends and family only setting. We decided on the private 30 min cocktail and H’orderves then going to eat at one of the resort restaurants with everyone.
When I asked about going off the resport most had a WHY ON EARTH responds LOL But my family and friends are pretty vocal.
Post # 6
I would agree that you should ask some of your guests what they think. I think it would be nice to at least have dinner at one of the restaurants in the resort, and then go out for drinks or dancing later if you like. Also, I heard that going outside of the resorts in Mexico right now is not the greatest idea, I’m not sure if it’s safer now or not.
Post # 7
Also, keep in mind that by having it at the resort you can control the costs. To me it would be tricky to have a “free for all” menu/drinks so to speak.
Post # 8
I actually have the same dilemma in a way. We are getting married at Dreams Rivera Maya resort. There are only about 15 to 20 guests coming. My fiance and I are unsure if we should have a formal reception considering its only a few of us. My thoughts were to maybe do a semi private dinner at one of the restuarants. I think it is silly to pay additional money at an All-Inclusive resort for food and drinks. I would like to do something special for my guests….We are still undecided.
Post # 9
I am gald you posted this as my Fiance and I are in the same boat…..we are having Destination Wedding in ST Thomas and have people flying in and I feel the same way is it bad to have them fly in for only a 15 min ceremony??
We are feeling obligated to do something special….so our thoughts were to host horderves while we are doing pics and we have a steel drum band that will play during that time…..our wedding is at an all inclusive but there are additional fees for a priv reception which we were told we have to have at least 20 people and right now we only have about 14 commited…..we are so torn on what to do as well……
Post # 10
@weddingbound: Even with 14 people at an all inclusive you should be able to get a table together at a restaurant on the resort–just to gather around and celebrate after the pics
Post # 11
Even having a seated dinner at the resort doesn’t have to be formal. Maybe you should chat with your resort about the option to set up a casual reception with bar/apps/buffet for the meal. Maybe a little background music, and people just hanging out?
I do know that if I were a guest traveling all that way and spending all that money, I’d be a little miffed to have a 15 minute ceremony and then nothing else. I’d be totally okay with going off property, but I’m pretty adventurous. That being said, I think it would be way more convenient for your guests to do it right there.