Post # 1
hi bees! i am seriously contemplating going the destination route vs traditional wedding route. i feel like we got in way over our heads over this wedding stuff. our parents are helping us out a bit, which is greatly appreciated, but we will still have to save a LOT in the next year. would it be worth it to do a destination wedding instead? that way we’re not paying for extended family/friends who we haven’t talked to 10-15 YEARS? my only worry is that my best friends won’t be able to make the trip… 🙁
Post # 3
would you rather have a wedding where more people can attend? if so, go for a smaller traditional wedding. i would make sure my best friends would be able to afford to travel if they’re really important to you to have there.
Post # 4
If you haven’t talked to them in a decade, why invite them?
Seriously. You don’t have to. It’s not a a law. We had a rule that we were only inviting people who were close to at least one of us (plus spouses/partners). That cut out a lot of those relatives.
Post # 5
@mightywombat: You are right. It’s more of my parents/fi’s parents that are wanting to invite family/friends. My problem is, we have to spend a minimum of $5350 at our venue to get the venue for free. Granted, the prices of meals are expensive, plus there is a 7% sales tax plus 22% service fee… that brings our minimum to $6901
Post # 6
Honestly the venue does not sound unreasonable to me (my minimum was 15k) but I don’t know where you’re planning the wedding. If you decide on a destination wedding you really need to be ok with the fact that people may not come. Also, I was reading your other post and I know both your parents are contributing. Would they be ok with a destination wedding? If they are contributing they have more of a say and you really can’t just change your wedding without running it by them.
Another thing to think about is that October 1 is still prime hurricane season so if you’re thinking Jamaica/the Bahamas its a serious concern.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
For us we would have had over 200 people for a traditional wedding at home and maybe closer to 300 if we invited distant relatives. I calulated the cost out a while ago and between the wedding at home we would have had and the destination one we are having, the cost difference was over 10K.
Not to mention that we ALL OUT for the wedding in the Riviera Maya and if we had the wedding back home we wouldn’t have been able to afford the same luxe items. So with the same items at both the cost savings would be more than 10K.
In the end it comes down to knowing that not everyone will be able to attend. My BFF isn’t going to be able to come to our wedding in Mexico but for us the trade off was worth it. I would never have been happy with a huge wedding. Plus we are having a at home reception so that we can all party together!
Post # 8
If you would rather a more intimate wedding with only your closest people and LOVE the idea of a destination, DO IT! It may or may not actually save you money in the end. I would really talk to you Fiance and figure out how much it would really cost and what is most important to you. Your desicion will suddunly become much easier.
Post # 9
I’ll throw out another idea: a semi-destination wedding. I also wanted an intimate wedding but was concerned that some of my closest friends and family members could not afford an all-out Destination Wedding. So we are having a semi-destination wedding that will require most guests to drive about two hours and stay overnight in a hotel to attend. That pretty much filters out the people who could “take it or leave it,” if you know what I mean, but it doesn’t put it out of reach for our siblings with children and other VIP guests who would struggle to pay airfare and get away for more than a night or two.
If you are seriously considering a Destination Wedding, the first thing I would do is make a list of the people who you ABSOLUTELY want to attend, and then run it by them and only them. If they say they are “in,” go for it. Anyone else you invite who chooses to attend will be a bonus.
Post # 10
I am all about the destination weddings! The reasons you listed are exactly the reasons why we decided to go the destination wedding route… you can still invite all those courtesy invites that you haven’t spoken to in 10 years but that your parents claim you “have” to invite, but chances are they are not going to come, so it’s a win win there. You do always run the risk of having some people that you would love to be there not make it, and that sucks, but I think the benefits far outweigh the negatives. Those that want to be there will try their best to make it.
Similar to Meerkat, if we had a wedding near home we would have at least 200 people, most of which would come becuase it was convenient and many of which I don’t care about coming because they are extended family that I don’t talk to but that my Mom would kill me if I didn’t invite. Now, we are able to invite everyone while knowing that only about 45% of them will come, no hurt feelings or excluding people, and we are able to have an absolutely awesome wedding for a fraction of the cost because we are having it in Mexico.
Not to mention that the most fun I have ever had at weddings have been destination weddings because it’s like a vacation with all of your most favorite people!