(Closed) Destination wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

you still planning on late 2011? i say sleep on it a little longer.  But if you want to do the Destination Wedding route, i say go for it πŸ˜‰ I am biased.

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i say a destination wedding and then when you come home a dinner/party for those that couldnt make it

which is basically what we did but we eloped and had a party a few months later

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

hmmm hard to say, since some family members close to you seem to have good reasons to not be able to afford it…

My family was not warm on the idea, but had no GOOD reason not to come, so we went ahead with the Destination Wedding. The ones important to us are coming even if they would have preferred it close to home. It’s your wedding, not theirs.. but if they have good reasons not to be able, I would probably think about doing something small close to home, and leaving on the same night for honeymoon.

Post # 7
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If the passports are an issue, you can look into places where it won’t be required – Hawaii, the Florida Keys, resort areas on the mainland US.

Do both your your family and his live in the same town as you?  If your family lives somewhere else, you could do a destination wedding and then have a family party where they live to celebrate.  If everyone lives in the same area, it could be kind of hard on people to feel like they can’t afford to celebrate with you, but if they’re traveling either way, then a domestic destination wedding might work well.

I’m a big believer in doing what you want to do, but the issue with a Destination Wedding is that it can cause guests to have to pay a bigger portion.  You can try to help out there – subsidize lodging, make sure they don’t feel obligated to give gifts, but how much that matters depends on the financial situation.  Doing things your way over your family’s is one thing, but you don’t want your family to feel excluded from the wedding entirely.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’ll find something!  I’m jealous that you get to look somewhere that’s not 3,000 miles away.  My partner and I are on the west coast, but both our families are back east so we’re going to do it there.  BUT probably a good 2+ hours from where our families actually live because that area is very expensive and doesn’t have the sort of venues we’re looking for.  If you do go with something local, do remember that it’ll make things so much nicer to be able to drive and see venues on weekends and days off rather than waiting until your next vacation, spending half of it driving to look at places.  πŸ™‚

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