posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: How many people can you invite to a destination wedding (9 hours away)




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  • Post # 3
    5870 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    The decision is up to them, what’s to be gained by excluding them?

    Post # 4
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I don’t think it really matters how many people you invite.  An invitation isn’t a demand, people have a choice to turn it down.  If they can afford to go, they will go.  If not, they won’t.  I don’t think you should expect 80 people to show up though.  Not 100% sure, but I think the acceptance rate for a destination wedding is lower than 50%.  

    Post # 5
    9950 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    In truth you can Invite whomever you want.

    I do believe there is a difference tho between a Destination “sort of at home” and one that is definitely far away.

    Sort of at home, would be for me in a different city / location… than the one people might expect

    So if the Bride & her family lives in NYCity… she went to Uni / got a job in Philly… and her Hubby2B is from Memphis

    NYCity would be a natural choice of where people might think she’d be getting married.

    Philly would also make sense.

    Memphis is going to maybe come as a surprise (but do-able) for the NYCity & Philly folks.

    BUT if you mean a far off Destination…

    Like flying off to Rio, The Canadian Rockies, Europe or even the other side of the country … then ya, that truly is a DESTINATION WEDDING (more so if it isn’t the homebase for either the Bride or the Groom)

    In scenario one, I think you can send out as many Invites as you please (Wedding in the same country)

    In the second scenario, it gets a lot trickier… especially so as many people consider Vacation / Destination Weddings to be more about the Bride & Groom and their wants, than the comfort & convenience (considerations that should be made) for one’s Guests

    (Sorry… but it is the truth on what people think & say)

    In the latter sake, I’d cut back my Invites to just nearest & dearest… and have a Back Home Reception Party for Family & Friends who couldn’t make it.

    — — —

    Mr TTR & I are Older Encores… we Eloped (just the 2 of us) to a Destination Wedding so we could marry in a Favourite Destination on a Beach over Christmas.  We had a FABULOUS Back Home Reception Party for Family & Friends after we got home after the Honeymoon.

    Whole thing was AWESOME.

    We never thought we’d have any sort of a Reception… but so many of our Family & Friends wanted to celebrate with us (even 3 couples wanted to come crash our Elopement) that we decided we were blessed with many who loved us… and it was the right thing to do for them… more than it was for us.

    And therein lies the key.  Sometimes when it comes to events that look like they are all about you they truly can be more about one’s Guests (Funerals can be like that too)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    9950 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    PS… I didn’t vote, cause I didn’t know which type of Destination Wedding you were looking at having.


    Post # 7
    4435 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @janet.little.7:  invite as many as you want! The more the merrier:)

    Post # 8
    9164 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @janet.little.7:  Do you want a destination wedding or do you want a party at home? As far as I am concerned having a Destination Wedding menas inviting those who you want to join you for your wedding to join you for your wedding. You don’t throw a party for guests who couldn’t make a home town wedding so why would you do it for a DW?

    Invite whom ever you want whether that be 100 or 1000 people. But keep your expectations of who will attend low.

    Post # 10
    3025 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Invite who you want. No one has to come if they can’t afford it or work it into their schedule.

    Post # 11
    9950 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Makes sense then.

    Curious where then would the bulk of your Guests be coming from… is there one specific city / cities… area / region of the country ?

    IE – Where are you now – Your Fiance – Where are your Parents – His ?

    That might make it easier to determine what would make more sense for you (Scenario A or B)

    Post # 14
    9950 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Ok and would it be convenient or not convenient then to go back there ?

    Another words, do you live in that part of the country or have a permanent connection there ?

    (ie Your Parents – His Parents – Him – Your Current Home turf etc)

    Remember if you decided to make your Destination Wedding smaller and have a Back Home Reception it could be at a different time (that is if it isn’t your Home Town after the Wedding)… and it would be a TON cheaper too normally than hosting a Reception in a place where you have no family / connections

    Charleston SC for example is fairly expensive City at the best of times… from what I’ve read on WBee having a Wedding there can be SUPER EXPENSIVE

    — — —

    Our Back Home Reception Party after our Elopement Destination Wedding wasn’t a Sit Down Meal… we did Cocktails & Hors d’Ouevres – Cake & Bubbly – and DJ & Dancing.  That rang in at less than half of what we would have spent per person for a regular reception here at home… and probably less than a Quarter of what it would have cost us in our Destination City (and that would have been before we took in other considerations… like we would have no doubt ended up paying for accommodations for some Guests if not airfare)

    The great thing is we had the best of BOTH WORLDS…

    We got to celebrate where we wanted how we wanted with our nearest & dearest, and then we went home and celebrated with those who weren’t there.  We were happy, they were happy.  No hard feelings.  And like I said a lot cheaper too.

    Remember a Back Home Party can be anything you want it to be… including just Cake & Punch… or a Backyard BBQ etc.  It can happen right after, or months later.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 15
    31 posts
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I live in Australia, we are getting married in Thailand … guests will need to travel a minimum of 8 hours via plane and need a passport … to me this is a true destination wedding!!


    We had 110 on the invitation list, with 70+ attending.


    Obviously we knew some people that we invited could never make it (age, health, finances) but to us that was no reason not to invite them!!


    Its personal choice, but i dont see why it should restrict who you invite.

    Post # 16
    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    @j_jaye:  Can you explain that to my parents? LOL they are so hung up on me having the wedding at home/a reception at home “so that everyone can come”. I don’t even know who “everyone” is, to be honest!

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