Post # 17
Sure give me their number
I just put my foot down when our folks started on with an at home reception. We simply explained if we wanted a wedding reception at home we would have gotten married at home.
Personally I find at home receptions especially when the guests were not even invited to the Destination Wedding pretty distasteful. When it is guests not invited to the actual Destination Wedding it just smacks of we didn’t think you were important enough to come to the actual wedding but please come to our second chance reception and shower us with gifts and attention. And when it was guests that were invited I kind of feel like the couple are just after gifts.
It is a choice whether a guests comes to a wedding or not. If they choose not to why should they get a second chance? But I also feel that if having a Destination Wedding is going to purposely exclude 80% of the invited guests then maybe you shouldn’t have a Destination Wedding or just have an intimate family & close friends wedding. I don’t understand why people feel the need to invite every man and his dog to their wedding.
Post # 18
Hahaha this is exactly what I told them! And this is exactly how I feel. High five!
Post # 19
I had a Destination Wedding in florida and I invited about 125 people. About 80 came. I would rather have a wedding and a party with the people who I care most about than have a small wedding and big reception back home with people I barely know. I would talk to people your closest with and get opinions first. My closest friends and family were supportive and that’s all I cared about.
Post # 20
We had a Destination Wedding in South Africa and we invited about 150 guests. Out of the 100 guests that attended 90% were flying in from either Europe (10+ hours) or the US (18+ hours). I definitely felt a bit selfish at times, making them travel so far and taking time off etc. But our friends and families are quite adventurous and are used to travel a lot, and they were all just so excited to come to SA and absolutely fell in love with the country!
We also organized 3 events (BBQ day before, wedding and day after brunch) so that our guests were well taken care of and that we could spend as much time together as possible. We arrived a week before and additionaly organized a few dinners with guests who arrived early as well.
All in all it was a fantastic experience! So my advice to you is invite whoever you want and don’t feel bad – your guests truly want to come and celebrate with you! And you might give them a great excuse to travel to a place they wouldn’t usually go to 🙂
Post # 21
We live in the DC area and had the wedding in Scotland where DH’s parents are. We invited 116 people, about 68 attended.
Invite who you want. If they come, great! If not, no biggie! But there isn’t a limit to how many people you can invite.
Post # 22
Honestly it doesn’t matter, but from my POV one of the big appeals of a Destination Wedding is that you almost have to cut down on who you invite, I remember when my Dad and Stepmum renewed there vows, it was ridiculous they had to ask who people were when they were being congratulated. Another point to consider is who is paying for them to go if they are then invite as many people as you want but don’t be disappointed when some people say they can’t go but if you’re paying think about how many people you can afford to invite, unfortunately this will probably equally upset the people who don’t get an invite (unless you’re really rich and can afford to invite every single person you know then unfortunately my theory kind of goes to pot)
Post # 23
Invite as many as you want! Expect the RSVP count to be lower than a local wedding though. I invited 50 to my Destination Wedding and am expecting 25.