(Closed) Destination Wedding Advice

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have felt this way to be honest. Not similar situations ours is actually bigger than his first, but I wonder about the comparisons. What will people think? Do they think it’s nuts we’re having something huge because it’s his second marriage? Will they have thoughts about how liked her more than me? I’m over analyzing because of the situation, so in that way we are in the same boat.

Post # 4
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73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

To be honest, I don’t think guys really care whether the wedding is big or small.  Your wedding is going to be better because he’s marrying YOU.  Obviously his first marriage didn’t work out for a reason so I can guarantee you he won’t be thinking about his first wedding when he sees you walking down the aisle.

My hubby told me several times that we were doing this wedding thing the way I wanted it just to make me happy but he would have been just fine going down to the courthouse.

As for everyone else, screw what they think.  This is YOUR day so enjoy it however works best for you as a couple.

Hope this helps.

Best of luck!

Post # 5
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I wouldnt allow his previous wedding to hinder your feeling on your own wedding. 

I wouldn’t worry about what others will think – its YOUR day (as well as his) and if its what you both want, then that’s all that matters.  The fact, everyone will be seeing how happy you are on that day, I’m sure that will be the last thing on their minds.

I think you might be looking too much into this.  I do see where you’re coming from, absolutely!  But, its still YOUR day, regardless of anything, so do what you want to have the best memory of it.  🙂 

Good luck!

Post # 6
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your wedding on the beach sounds more real than their fancy church wedding!  The fact that you just want to be married and aren’t going crazy with all the bells and whistles…(in my opinion) means that you’re getting married for the right reason and not jsut trying to “put on a show” for everyone else.  Besides, they didnt last so what’s that tell ya bout their “dream” wedding.  😉

I love your idea of getting married on the beach with his uniform on, I can’t wait to see the pics!  Good Luck.

Post # 7
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Have you posted on the encore forum?  You don’t have to be an encore bride, you can be a first time bride marrying an encore groom.  Lots of us over there can relate to what you’re feeling.

Maybe have an elegant yet intimate beach wedding in his uniform (we did ) and then have a larger still elegant yet fun reception at a nice restaurant or event space after you return, show pics, have entertainment, cut the cake, and have a minister say a few words and solemnize the vows you already took!

Ours was awesome!  We both were married before and all our married friends told us they wish they had done it how we did, how fun it was, how great the food was, and they just loved it!

Post # 8
Member
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Well, chances are, he doesn’t want a wedding identical to his first. Have you talked to him about how you’re feeling? What does he say?

Post # 10
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916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

Sorry I am late to the party on this one but I can tell you from experince don’t worry about it. Mr. M.’s family is big and MAJOR catholic so when we told them we were doing a destination wedding instead of the 250 person church wedding… well you can guess where this is going. Lets just say we only got support from his mom, dad and sister.

We just got married last tuesday and I about died when the biggest grumbler of them all, his grandmother, came up with this huge smile on her face and told us it was like a fantasy and better than any wedding she had ever been to. So I can tell you with 100% confidence go for it. More than likey you will show them something most of them have never seen. *hugs*

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