Destination Wedding DRAMA

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

Are you aware of the hoops to jump through to get legally married in mexico? Most people do a courthouse wedding at home and then a “celebration” in mexico. Maybe your family can attend the courthouse wedding at home if you go that way?

 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

Your family needs an education. San Miguel de Allende is super safe, especially compared to Cancun right now.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

To be honest, I would just have the wedding you want and focus on your own special day. If your family has issues and wont attend, it will be their regret in the end, not yours. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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puppylover12 :  I think this is just an inherent risk in a destination wedding. I attended one in Jamaica, once, because I was in the bridal party, and I still feel a little resentful over the $5000 it cost for my husband and I to attend. Not because we couldn’t afford it, but because it’s $5000 and a week of my time to go to a place I didn’t want to go. If it had been double the price but a wedding in Japan (my favourite place) I’d have had no complaints but I’m sure others wouldn’t be happy. Overall you can’t please everyone so you just have to try and balance what you want vs who you want to be there.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Your family sounds horrible, sorry bee. 

How important is it that they be there? How serious do you think they are? I would push them a bit more on the subject. 

I have an aunt that would give a similar reaction and I’d just “#sorrynotsorry you can’t be there” her ass. BUT I get you might not be willing to do that to your family. 

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

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puppylover12 :  have the wedding you want. I wouldn’t change my plans for a bunch of ignorant assholes 🤷🏽‍♀️ 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

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puppylover12 :  You may have brought this on yourself by only giving them partial information.If they have heard the US gov warnings, all they will remember is that they are being told that there is increasing risk outside of resorts. All you told them was that the wedding would not be in a resort. 

San Miguel De Allende is a beautiful place, but the sad fact is that it is not as safe to walk at night as it used to be either.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

It doesn’t need to be too expensive, your family and friends can have whatever reason they feel is valid to skip a destination wedding. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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puppylover12 :  Sorry, I’m Team Family. You are choosing to make it inconvenient for them, and it’s not even legally the wedding so it’s pretty rich for you to be salty that they’re saying no thanks. Since your fiance is from there, I understand that it’s meaningful to you, but it’s still a pain in the ass for your family so you need to graciously accept their declines. It’s not your place to say which reasons are acceptable or not. There are pros and cons to every decision and having loved ones decline is one of the cons of having a Destination Wedding, especially an international one, and especially when the US government has issued travel warnings against that destination. You’re allowed to have it there and they are allowed to not come. If you’re hurt that they’re declining, they are probably hurt that you’re putting them in the position to decline. If you want them there, make it easy for them. Otherwise, have your Destination Wedding and don’t be pissy that they’re not there.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

You are probably already aware, but just in case you are not – you need to have the Catholic ceremony first.

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