Destination Wedding DRAMA

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 46
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Worker bee

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mrscb2bee :  I think it depends a lot on the location…  Meaning…  If it is on a resort or in a resort area there is more of a sometimes ‘unearned’ feeling of safety.  When your not in a resort area it can have a different feeling/ vibe.  

 

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My aunt retired to San Miguel and I went to visit about 10 years ago. It’s a beautiful, quiet town! Filled with expats! I do recall it being a long day of travel to get there from Mexico City though. 

I like the idea of having two celebrations – a low-key one at home for your family who is unwilling or unable to travel, and the one you really want to have in San Miguel. 

Post # 48
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think you should go on and have the wedding you want to have. I would be more concerned about what kind of ignorant, racist shit my family might say or do around my husband AFTER the wedding. Them not attending the wedding is upsetting but if they harbor these kinds of ignorant views (to the point that they cannot overcome them to attend the wedding- like you would plan something that would be dangerous to yourself or your relatives- they’re so stupid), I’d expect some of those same views will still be in there after we are married and if/when we start having children- THAT is what you need to concern yourself about, imo.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Just have the wedding you want. I only had 13 family members attend my wedding since the state we live in is a destination for most of them. It made me sad to not have my grandparents attend but I accepted everyones (about 80 family members) declines graciously and had a wonderful day with all the guests that were there.

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper

Ok the pop ups destroyed my other comment. 

But I felt it worth it to repost. To those calling the Catholic ceremony dress up?! That’s incredibly offensive. It is THE most important part of the wedding for Catholics. There had to say it. 

So presumably if you had the wedding where you live HIS family would have to travel? This isnt really a destination wedding as its his hometown. 

I get your family not wanting to travel far for the wedding but their reaction is borderline offensive. Yes the problems at some resorts were concerning  (the alcogol counterfeit that killed a tourist is scary). BUT there’s dangerous things happening everywhere. Hell a Pakistani exchange  student got killed recently in one of our school shootings here  

If they travel the world they need to be aware that it’s not all that safe everywhere they go either. The fact that they are reacting to this particular destination is telling to me. I’m sorry you have to deal with this it sucks. Yhe locale looks gorgeous by the way they’re missing out. 

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper

Side note I’m now adding this to my “want to travel ” list after seeing the photos on this post. 😍

Post # 54
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Helper bee

Does your family accept your fiance?  It’s sad they are acting like this, although I think they are just throwing a temper tantrum, like they prefer not to be inconvenienced with this trip.  But that’s what happens when they won’t pay lol.  It’s your wedding, you are paying, the venue and location look beautiful, and it’s a place that is dear to your fiance!  They should respect that.  I can’t imagine they won’t actually come unless more issues come into play such as work/money/health/kids etc.  Also maybe ensure that you will have their transportation to and from the venue taken care of so it’s not like they will be on the streets of Mexico lost. 

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