Post # 1
Quick Question- my fiance’s best man was for some reason under the impression that the bride and groom were supposed to pay for the bridal partys hotel and travel to a destination wedding. I have been on weddingbee for a year and half and have never heard of this. Money isnt an issue for him and he knows that fiance and I have to pay for the wedding ourselves and arent getting any help from family. So I am not sure where he though this would be in our budget.
Are we supposed to be paying for our bridal party’s arrival and hotel?!!
Post # 3
I have read this in Emily Post! I think it is traditionally done but not always, I know we didnt because we couldn’t afford it. Just be honest with him, that you cant and maybe try to help find something inexpensive!
Post # 4
it just baffles me because he knows how much were struggling right now. my fiance had 4 pay cuts last year and hasnt recieved a raise in 3 years. We had to sell a car and cut some bills out. There is no way we can afford to pay for everyones travels and hotel.
I thought that destinations weddings were a way to cut the cost of a traditiional wedding. Something different and exotic for half the cost.
as far as money goes- he is an E-9 in the military and his wife is a partner in a big law firm where we live. they are NOT hurting at all. (not that that matters but, its a big difference from where we are)
Post # 5
We are not paying for our Bridesmaid or Best Man or MOH’s hotel!
We purhcased my MOH’s dress and BM’s tie. We are also paying for my MOH’s make up and hair…so no we won’t be paying for their lodging!
Post # 6
It all depends on if you have the money. Most people know that there will be some extra costs associated with participating in a destination wedding.
My fiance and I don’t play to pay for anything for our party with the exception of the dress and the shirt for the men, but maybe not that based on what we decide to do about even having a wedding party.
Post # 7
I heard proper etiquette is to pay for 2 nights stay for your bridal party. So that’s what we’re doing.
They’re still responsible for the other travel costs, but the 2 nights stay is usually the minimum they’ll be staying out of town for a wedding (rehearsal dinner one night, wedding the next).
Post # 8
My husband and I tossed around the idea of a Destination Wedding and then decided not to do it because we would only do it if we could cover the entire wedding party’s travel costs and it just wasn’t possible. I don’t think you’re technically required to do it.. but I would feel uncomfortable not doing it.
Post # 9
My friend paid for all the attendants for their Destination Wedding last year. I don’t know if everyone does it though.