(Closed) Destination Wedding…Everyone backing out

posted 4 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 31
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Bumble bee

I don’t thinking having fewer people will make things boring.  Actually I think it might make things really fun. Just make sure your tables are set up so people can talk.  Usually when we do smaller dinner parties of about 20 people of various ages, we have few very outspoken people seated at strategic locations so they can bring everyone into the conversation.  The money you have from not feeding the other guests and DJ fees, could you simply put them into some live performance? I don’t know how much these costs but something like firebreathers, fireworks, folk dancers or entertainers may be a fun idea?

Post # 32
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Helper bee

I never thought desintation weddings were supposed to be big affairs because of the high cost.  If I were planning one I would have figured a smaller affair. Some people like this, and thats why they decide to have them

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think you are thinking about this entirely way too much and should probably relax. We just got back from our Destination Wedding in Hawaii and there were 12 people total, including me and Darling Husband. We had an amazing dinner, then cake and then a bunch of shots and a dance party I wasn’t expecting. We thought it was pointless to have a dj, so we just had our phone playing. We also left our guest for like 30-40 min in between dinner and came to go take some more pictures and they enjoyed just hangout and sharing stories. If you wanted a huge, raging dance party, then you shouldn’t have had a Destination Wedding. Also, I didn’t know if my best friend was coming until I was already on the island and texted her to ask if she was coming, which she told me she wasn’t…not that big of deal, I’ll celebrate and have a great time with who comes. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

To make sure that the guests that ARE coming do have a wonderful time, I would focus on their experience, particularly as it relates to the destination itself. Instead of a DJ, hire a local band. Is your menu set by now? If not, make sure it features local/regional food. Pick favors that are representative of the area. If you want the adults to drink/party more, hire a babysitter or someone to teach the kids some arts&crafts. after party is a great idea, as is a group event befor/after (Tequila tour??) 

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

If you imagine the amount of people you have coming, if that was for, say, imagine a birthday party, you wouldn’t think oh this is just too few for it to get fun, would you? Have a playlist that isn’t too “young” eg choose fun pop tunes and ballads and golden oldies that the somewhat older generations will recognise, at my wedding (destination Sweden with majority flying in from the USA and UK) I hadn’t anticipated how much the relatives apparently were dying to get up for a boogie (I guess it makes sense when you think about the opportunities to get out for a good party are a lot fewer when you’re older or have kids so they’re not gonna let the opportunity go to waste!). The people who are committed to coming to your wedding will no doubt be very excited about it! With 20 people you have enough to have a great wedding party! A talented pianist/singer who can do requests could be fantastic!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I recommend getting some type of festive/beautiful and/or humorous entertainer in to perform two or three times during the evening, perhaps during cocktails before dinner, between starter and main course and before the cake. This breaks up the dinner and keeps things lively in a way that the speeches probably won’t. We had a ballerina but a magician or cirque du soleil style acrobat or something like that can really switch up the mood with their acts! 

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2017

bride2bee91784:  Your post was a bit ago.. it might be too late for any new ideas. we’re having a destination wedding as well, and are expecting around 20 people too. We are doing a semi-private dinner at one of the resort’s restaurants (it’s free!) and then a private “reception” (that’s what the resort calls it) afterwards. We are having it under this big gazebo thing by one of the pools – open bar with bar tenders, and a bunch of lounge furniture (not dinner tables + chairs). We rented the audi equipment and plan on bringing our own music to play. THat way if the crowd gets rowdy we can adapt to a dance party, otherwise everyone will enjoy sitting, drinking, chatting. Trying to stay flexible! 

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