Post # 1
Hello! My fiance and I wanted to have a small (immediate-family only) desination wedding. However, my Mom wants me to invite her sisters (a total of 3 aunts and spouses, so 6 people), and since I am close to my aunts and uncles, I am starting to want to invite them as well. My fiance is fine with 6 extra people, but he refuses to invite his aunts and uncles because (1) he is afraid they will feel bad if they can’t come, and he doesn’t think they will be able to and (2) he doesn’t want all of those additional people. My question is: Can I invite my aunts and uncles and not invite his, or would that be totally rude? Also, do you have any ideas on how I can persuade him to see things my way about inviting both of our aunts and uncles?
Post # 3
I think it depends on family dynamics, honestly. In my family, picking-and-choosing is not tolerated, and if you invite one aunt, you invite all of them. If his family wouldn’t be offended or upset at not being invited when parts of your family were, then that’s fine.
Post # 4
I only invited my mother’s sister and FI invited 2 of his aunts (plus sposuses for all). You have to make the decision together on who to invite. And drawing the line with aunts/uncles/cousins whatever doesnt work well for a destination wedding, becaude you want to invite those closest to you. It’s his call on who he wants in his family.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice. His aunts/uncles are pretty low key and not sensitive, but I still don’t want to make it seem like the wedding is all about my family, though he does have the choice to invite whoever he wants. We will see, I suppose!