(Closed) Destination Wedding Guest list…to trim or not to trim…

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are just starting to get RSVPs back, but I’m in a similar situation. Go through your list and mark who you know will or won’t come, then see where you are. 1/2 – 1/3 accepting sounds like a pretty safe assumption if the travel is far or expensive.

We invited 300 techincally but we knew about 50 would absolutely not come (health, distance, people not likely bringing their kids even though they were invited). So out of 250 ‘real’ invites, at this point we know we have 47 but invites just went out, and we are expecting up to 75. We also only gave 6 months notice and invited a few dozen guests that live halfway around the world, so that may have affected our numbers.

good luck!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I didn’t have a destination wedding but i made 100 invites for my SIL’s wedding. No idea who she sent them to, but they ended up with 19 guests, 4 of which were buddies o the grooms brother that just wanted to stay with him in his (free to them) Hawaiian timeshare. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I have been to two destination weddings which have had 100% RSVP rates and the guest list was about 70 for each.

We had about 50% for our Destination Wedding but we budgeted for 100% because if you issue an invite then you need to be prepared that they will come. Some of the guests we thought for sure wouldn’t come actually came so you can never tell.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

as others are stating, it really will depend on your individual guestlist and how many people on that list are travelers and will most likely go to your wedding.   We are in the process of getting RSVPs at this point (another stressful event lol) and so far I’ve heard from 40% of our guests.  We invited 98 people (includes kids) to our Destination Wedding and so far I’ve got 24 coming for sure. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Reign14:  I’m having a destination this April. I would say we invited about 100 people and have 58 confirmed people coming. We cut alot of people off of the list and didnt even bother to invite them because we figured we would have way more people then we actually wanted to be there. I want to be able to spend quality time with my guests and not just have 100 plus people there that I hardly see. I’m happy with the number of people we have now and only expect about 5 or so more that might book last minute.

We sent out a save the date email invite about 10 months before the wedding letting people know the dates and the price and our wedding planners info for them to contact.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Reign14:  I was honestly surprised that so many people agreed to come!! I kept the list down by only letting my mother invite a select few of her close friends or she would have went crazy in inviting people. Fiances family is very small (he is an only child and does not have any first cousins) so there wont be anyone there from his family besides his parents. My immediate family (uncles, aunts and cousins about 8 people all together) will be coming. We did not invite any extended family from either sides of our family and our reasoning was that it is a small destination wedding. As for our friends we only invited our very close friends and most of our friends either have babies and cant come or are teachers so they cant have time off during the school year.

The only difference with our wedding is that we are legally getting married in our home town in a religious ceremony and more people are invited to that part

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

We just expanded our guest list. We will send out to about 55-60 I’m anticipating about 45 total. One of our draws is its Disney, the other is they’ll get discounts and notification 10 months in advance.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Reign14:  Yes just about all of those that have RSVP’d have booked flights or hotel or both already.  Of course, a lot of people who expressed interest in the beginning are being flakes now.  Between myself, my Fiance and my parents, we will be contacting those that did not RSVP by our January 18th deadline (I will probably wait another few days after that).  We suspect most of those will be no answers, but I want to make sure.  I will only take a definitive answer once we do the double checkup on the folks who didn’t RSVP.  Don’t plan to give people ANOTHER deadline. My absolute cut off is February 1.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The more expensive/further the destination usually the less people come. It also depends how well off your guests are, and how much extra cash they have to play with.

We invited about 60 people and approx 22 are coming.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re doing a Destination Wedding in Scotland. We have 116 on the invite list. STD’s went out the beginning of October; we haven’t sent out invitations yet. We already have 61 people that have made some sort of arrangement – booked flight, hotel, something.

I wasn’t expecting many people to be willing to make the $2000 investment, and yet A LOT of them are – which is great and fantastic and I’m thrilled, but everyone is apparently coming 🙂

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