Post # 1
Just looking for thoughts:
Having the wedding in my hometown where the majority (40 or so) of the guests are from. 10 of the guests will be coming in from my fiance’s hometown aka the city where I met him and currently live. So it’s a destination wedding of sorts, even though the wedding is taking place in the city where I lived for most my life. It is in a very touristy place, an island, so many many things to do and people definitely want to do things!
I’m no sure how much is expected of us to host for them. The wedding is on Saturday. The earliest guest (fiance’s best friend + his girl) will arrive on Tuesday, the rest arrive on Wednesday an they are all staying a few days after the wedding.
We are obviously hosting the wedding, open bar, amazing food, ocean front, live music etc etc. It was really important for me to have a lovely event for those who were coming from so far away. We’re also obviously hosting the rehearsal dinner, again: open bar, great food, ocean front, etc. We plan to host a catamaran boat ride (sunset, 120 minutes, open bar) on Thursday night, prior to going out to dinner (probably 20 of us – will cost about 45 per person) Do we also have to pay for dinner if we’re all going out? I know we plan to do outdoor activities and I’m just wondering if we’re expected to foot the bill…..
This came up because 4 of them (2 couples) are not getting rental cars and expect my fiance and I to drive them around that week to any and all activities. Our car only fits 5 so this definitely makes things really difficult.. There would be 6 of us. Anyway this expectation got me thinking….
What would you expect if you went to a destination wedding???
Post # 3
Personally I would NOT expect the bride and groom to chauffeur me around, that’s pretty rude. You guys will have so many other things to be doing. If I were you I’d turn that request down now unless it’s your sister or something.
Otherwise what you have planned is more than enough, and very generous. That’s lots of activities, and just because the guests are staying a week doesn’t mean you have to fill it – that was their choice to come for so long.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
They’re ridiculous for thinking that you’re going to drive them around all week, let them know that you are busy with wedding activities but throw them a bone like “maybe we can go here for drinks”
If they’re doing an extended stay they’re probably treating it like a vacation so I might suggest locations they could visit (like on your wedding website?).
Also, you got married in 1992?
Post # 5
@mchitt329: Nope, not 1992, that’s just the default date and I never changed it.
Post # 6
Thanks for responding. I don’t mind so much because they don’t really expect us to drive them everywhere…. just if we do anything outside of the area that they are staying, we will have to take them. However, most activities are in the area they are staying, including the wedding and reception (They are staying in a hotel right next door)
It just got me thinking what is expected as far as hosting out of town guests, especially when it comes to dinner. I imagine going out with a big group to dinner maybe on TH night before the wedding and I just feel like it may be expected that we pay the bill….because it’s our wedding week…….
Post # 7
Just make it clear that you will be doing such and such on Thursday night and they are welcome to join you then quote a price range for dinner. That makes it obvious that they need to bring money to pay for themselves.
Post # 8
Oh and I would add numbers for cab companies as well!
Post # 9
Do the two couples know each other? Can they share a car rental if it’s a money issue for each one? I would def be saying no to being a chauffeur for the week.