Post # 1
I’m very excited as my Fiance and I just recently got engaged (two weeks ago! Still getting used to calling him my Fiance, LOL) and we already are 99% certain we would like to have our wedding ceremony at Blackwater Falls State Park in WV and then have the reception at the cabin we will be staying at. My main question is concerning guests–we both have big families, especially him, so we will be inviting a lot of people. Our plan was to rent an 8 person cabin for the week where he and I would stay and offer up the rest of the room in the cabin to some of our bridal party who perhaps wouldn’t be able to afford to stay the whole week on their own dime (we’re artists, as are a lot of our friends, so it comes with the territory). This only covers a few bridesmaids and groomsmen, who, like I said, probably wouldn’t be able to afford the whole week otherwise, where as other people in the bridal party would without a problem. So my first question is are we expected to pay for other cabins for the entire bridal party or is it acceptable to say something along the lines of “I’d really like you to be my bridesmaid, however we will be there the whole week to prepare, if you can’t afford the entire week we completely understand, etc”? And my second question is are we expected to pay for all our guests lodging in general?
P.S. If any of you have happened to have had a wedding ceremony in Blackwater Falls State Park any pointers? Also is there a fee? I heard it’s free to get married in the park as long as you provide your own chairs.
Post # 3
You definitely don’t have to pay for the guests hotel lodging. Even your bridal party is not required although a nice guesture. I doubt anyone can take off a full week for your wedding day, so if you want, you can offer a room for them for two nights (which seems more normal).
Would you be able to afford the whole cabin yourselves for the week?
Does the cabin allow for parties – do you have to bring in a tent, chairs, tables, food, etc?
The restaurant can cater:
Various rental rooms for a weddings:
(Note I’ve never been to WV, I’m just googling for you.)
Post # 4
@sienna76: The cabins there are incredibly affordable, so we figured we would save up some extra money and just as a nice gesture get an 8 person cabin and offer a week’s long stay (or however long) to some of our friends in the bridal party who normally wouldn’t be able to afford it. As far as the other bridal party members, is it acceptable to ask them to be a bridesmaid/groomsmen but tell them they’re responsible for boarding themselves? I would just tell them they’re invited for the whole week up until the wedding but if they can only do a night or two that’s also fine.
While the cabin site has a pavillion, we were considering asking the lodge about rules in regards to use renting a tent and things like that, so that stuff we’re still figuring out.
Thanks so much for the links! I’m def going to check those out. We have a few good ideas for catering and my family and I have vacationed there for years, so I think we’ll be okay with room rental info and all that jazz.
Post # 5
Ah I see, offer lodging to some Bridal Party members, but not all…
My first hunch would be to offer the same thing (cabin or no cabin) to all the Bridal Party just to be consistent.
Do you think the other Bridal Party members would be miffed if they learned you covered others’ lodging and not theirs? Of course, you’re not required to cover anyones, but that was my first though.
Or you could put it as “first come first serve for the Bridal Party, we have 3 free rooms to offer if anyone wants to stay with us in our cabin.” And hope the good friends snatch it up first?
Last idea, just tell your good Bridal Party friends that their rooms are covered if they want to stay in your cabin, but since you cannot do it for everyone ask them to not spread the word, but no need to outline for the rest of the Bridal Party that they are on their own. I think that is assumed when you’re a Bridal Party member that you pay for your own lodging, dress, etc. I don’t think you have to say, “Sorry, you’re on your own!” If they assume you are covering it, then they are in the wrong.
Looks like a lovely location!
Post # 6
@sienna76: Ooohh I like that “first come first serve” thing.
The thing is some of our other Bridal Party members would be covered without us offering the cabin space, as they’re married and would probably get lodging with their SO’s or our family members. I think if my other friends (who can afford a cabin or hotel for a week to themselves) knew we offered other Bridal Party members the extra room in our cabin they wouldn’t be offended at all, and I’m not even sure they would need to know about it (for all they know all eight of us could’ve split a cabin together, that sounds kinda awful, but I don’t think I would advertise that we offered lodging unless we were asked.) But like I said our friends and family wouldn’t be mad about that. I’m just really lost on the basic principle of what we pay for as far as lodging, but it seems as though at the end of the day we only need to worry about ourselves, which is a relief!
Post # 7
@kristinlforeman: When I had a wedding with guests planned (it was changed to an elopement) I pre-bought 6 cabins for first come first serve. They were to pay us back, but we pre-bought them because they fill up quickly and it was so rare to have 6 open for a weekend so we snatched them up! This place didn’t take reservations, they required full payment for 3 night min!
As people started to pick cabins (one couple per cabin), based on a map I made, no one selected the cabins closest to us. I mentioned it to a few friends, and they felt like we needed some privacy! It could be too noisy! LOL
So who knows, people may not want to share the actual cabin with the newlyweds!
Sounds like first come, first serve will take care of those that need it and those that won’t! Good luck!
Post # 8
@sienna76: Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it