Post # 1
I’m starting to really think about having the wedding at my FI’s family farm, there is SO MUCH that is right about it that I might be able to get past the few things that aren’t… And I can’t seem to find a venue that fits all of my criteria.
But my biggest concerns are about my guests… The farm is in a TINY (farming) town about an hour and a half from Austin (and the nearest airport), so it’s not a tourist destination with a bunch of cute shops or anything. There are a couple hotels that would be able to accomodate our guests for reasonable prices (maybe making it a little easier on guests). However there isn’t much else to do in the town, and since there are a lot of out of town state guests I’m worried they won’t have a good time.
I would do a “welcome dinner” on Friday night at the farm probably just hamburgers and hot dogs with sides and stuff and serve beer and kind of just let everyone get to know eachother a bit, set up some horseshoes, volleyball etc. Then the hotel serves a hot breakfast in the morning so everyone can get up and do their own thing, sit by the hotel pool or come back to the farm to hang out play horseshoes, volleyball, fish (for fun), we could also set up a hunt for whatever is in season… There is a nice golf course and a bowling alley in town and restaurants that people could go to if they wanted. Then come to the farm for the wedding in the evening.
I’m wondering if it is rude to expect most guests to travel 200-2,000 miles to go to a po-dunk town (and be potentially bored) just for my wedding?
Post # 3
I think it is fine, especially because the farm has significance.
If you had just picked a farm in the middle of nowhere that you had no ties to it might be strange, but this isn’t.
I recently went to a wedding in the middle of nowhere MD. In fact, the closest hotel was an hour away and they bussed us to the wedding site.
I think the fact that you will provide activities for the whole weekend, rather than just the wedding, makes the destination perfectly fine.
They are coming there to celebrate your marriage, not to go on a touristy vacation.
Post # 4
Honestly, it sounds great! It sounds like you have guests all over the place – so no matter what some people would have to travel right? So you have at least picked a place thats important to you, and is reasonible. All your ideas sound awesome. If I were you I’d make maybe a cute little “Guide Book” or Flier to go with your invites explaining all these activites. Maybe pose it that “You are Inivted to Spend a Weekend Down on the Farm!” and mention all these fun options. If I heard the wedding was in some po dunk town with nothing to do I’d be bummed. But if I heard that were would be a full weekend of activities including games, parties, etc I’d be psycehd. So I think it’s all in how you position it to your guests.
Post # 5
I think that sounds like a brilliant wedding idea. I know I’d be happy to travel miles for that – volleyball, hunting trips, bbqs and a wedding too…awesome 🙂
And if that’s not their thing – then leave it to them to opt out and not come.
Post # 6
I think its fine! I am getting married in Colorado Springs and it isn’t exactly NY or MIA..
Post # 7
Thanks ladies. I’m really starting to consider it now. I would rather get married somewhere that means something that isn’t perfect than some random place that still isn’t perfect, if that makes sense.
Post # 8
i think it’s a great idea! the fact that you’re providing activities and that austin isn’t that far away is really good.
Post # 9
Personally, I think that sounds AWESOME! Then again, I’m a small town girl at heart and the idea of going to the country to a wedding on the farm just sounds fantastic! Besides, 1 1/2 drive is nothing to whine about.
Post # 10
I think it will be fine. You are not asking guests to spend their 2 week vacation there.
They would likely arrive late Friday afternoon, attend your dinner Friday evening, have a relaxing Saturday am ,have a few hours to enjoy in the afternoon before the wedding, sleep in Sunday am and then head home.
Sounds like a nice getaway weekend to me.
Post # 11
1.5 hours is nothing to drive— think about how long most city folk commute each day;)
Post # 12
We’re also having a wedding in a city that only one set of FI’s family actually lives in.
Our venue is in the middle of our two hometowns, so everyone will have to travel to get there. (2.5 hours for his family, 1.5 hours for mine)
It is a car ride away, though, and guests can choose whether or not to stay overnight. If they don’t want to stay in a hotel over night, they don’t have to. But there is plenty of rooms available for them if they choose to stay.
Post # 13
personally, even being from California and growing up in a big city, i would TOTALLY dig a trip to the middle of no where!! i think if you make sure you provide activities with as much local flair as possible, it could be beyond amazing. really work up the whole “farm” thing. i woudl include a welcome bag wiht some local fare or something, maybe info about the area, its history, and what not. its where he grew up, which makes it that more amazing!
i totally agree with Jzrygirl with the guide book and such.
Post # 14
I want to come! It sounds like fun! Plus, people don’t necessarily go to weddings for the location, they go to celebrate with the newleyweds. I would totally do it, it sounds like a blast and I love the idea of a welcome dinner. One thing that you could also do since everyone is coming from out of state, is welcome bags that you have the hotel put in their rooms. I am doing this for my destination wedding
I’m putting bottles of water, microwave popcorn, candy, deck of cards, thank you notes and a few other little goodies in gift bags and having the hotel leave them in the rooms of guests for their arrival.
Post # 15
@jenroh1984: I was thinking about doing a welcome basket as well with a little list of activities and snacks and such might be a nice gesture. 🙂
I was wondering if we do a welcome basket would we still need to do a favor at the wedding?
Post # 16
i live in chicago and i’d love to have a “weekend getaway” to somewhere not as congested and busy. i think it sounds like a great idea and a lot of fun!