Post # 1
Hi Everyone! FH and I are having a destination wedding in a ski town in May 2022. We are trying to finalize our hotel blocks. Our friends and family are scattered all across the country, and our goal for the weekend is to spend as much time with everyone as possible, we would love to find a place that can accomodate as many of our loved ones as possible. Because our wedding is in a “ritsy” ski town, we have had a hard time finding lodging that 1) has a great location and 2) has a variety of price points, and 3) is “special occasion” quality. To make matters more difficult, it is important to us that our dog be with us. She is extremely well trained (she is in training to be a volunteer therapy dog), but I feel uncomfortable lying to non-dog friendly hotels about her status just to get her in. Yes we are crazy dog people, this is non-negotiable.
We found a mid-tier option that seemed to be a happy-medium (great location, decent prices, comfortable/clean/large rooms, and dog friendly), but both of our parents were not thrilled about the option. They said that we are planning a “nice wedding” and we want the accomodations to match the occasion. I can understand where they are coming from. But any other option which does match the “occasion” (and can accomodate our dog) is either further away from downtown OR has a steep price tag, which I simply do not feel comfortable asking my friends to pay. How have others handled this? We are thinking of recommending this mid-tier option as the main option, but then offering another higher-end hotel that is right across the street for those who are interested? Also, our venue owner does recommend this option as one of her preffered vendors, because she finds the location to be so easy (she requires transportation to/from her venue and does not allow parking). The shuttle service that she works with is very comfortable leaving to/from this particular hotel.
Post # 2
Give your guests a couple of options at different price points and understand that they may not pick any of them, and may choose to find their own lodging. You will never make everyone happy, and with a destination wedding, it’s best to set the expectation with yourself and your parents that people are going to already be spending a bit to join you, and its up to them where and how long they stay. Looking for a hotel to match the occasion, is just a wee bit silly, to be honest. It’s where people are staying its not part of the event.
Post # 3
A room block is just a suggestion. Tell your parents where you are staying and they can stay where they want, and make sure you’ve got plans for the dog.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Just block rooms wherever you want and know that people will stay where they want to stay. It’s really just a list of suggested places. No need to add additional stress on yourself. Just make sure you and your Fiance and dog are set, guests will take care of themselves when it comes to accomodations.
Post # 5
A room block is only a convenience and one suggestion. People are never obligated to stay in one place and probably won’t. That said, I would book the block there and list a range of options in all price ranges.
If this is a true Destination Wedding, there’s likely already additional expense and burden on people. Your mother may be surprised to know that many people don’t particularly want to pay high prices for something that is not their own vacation.
On another note please don’t lie about owning a service dog.
Post # 6
I like your plan but I would also offer a budget option even if it is further away.
And thank you for not lying about your dog.
Post # 7
As others have said, people can stay and will stay at different hotels – the block is just a suggestion. If it’s too expensive or too far away for your guests, they’ll just book elsewhere.
You don’t even have to stay at the same place that you get the room block. I didn’t stay where my room block was (I had accommodation already) and I know some people will get a really fancy air bnb or hotel suite and then offer something more reasonable to their guests.
Post # 8
You don’t have to stay where the guests do. It’s ok to get a room block and let people know where they can stay when they come. When I go to a wedding as a guest I don’t ever expect to stay in as fancy a place as the bride and groom. When I was in the wedding we stayed at the same hotel for one of the nights but the rest was at a cheaper place.
Post # 9
“Thanks mom and dad, we’ve made our decision, but you’re welcome to stay wherever you want!”
Post # 10
Stay wherever you and FH want. Then I’d probably create two room blocks, one cheaper and one more expensive. But I’d only do two if it doesn’t cost you a deposit to hold. Keep in mind some guests won’t stay there.
Post # 11
YOU aren’t offering them anything. Not your hotels and not your checkbook paying for the rooms. So unless you’re booking and paying for them, you aren’t doing anything except saying “I’ve had rooms at these hotels set aside to guarantee there’s rooms available for our wedding guests…do with that what you will.” And then your guests are welcome to call up that hotel and book from your block or use their googling fingers to look up places to stay that tickle their fancy, including but not limited to a five-star hotel, the no-tell motel, an air bnb 25 miles away, an igloo two kids built in their backyard, or their own car in grocery store parking lot. Their money, their vacation, their call. Booking a hotel block or three is just an optional courtesy you are providing in case rooms book up fast – it doesn’t obligate people to stay there.
There’s a chance some of your guests aren’t going to book in the block anyway. I rarely book from hotel blocks because a) I have my own preferences for what I like in a hotel, and b) I can almost always find better deals outside of the blocks. Not all of your guests have to stay in the same place and they may have their own preferences. Some may want to “match the occasion” while some may want just a clean, dry place to sleep on a budget because they plan to be out all day and not spending their vacation in their hotel room. You can all still make plans to meet up in central locations or the hotel lobby of the most centrally located one no matter where people stay.
So stay in the place that meets your needs, maybe set up a block there as well, and then set up a block at one or two other hotels that will generally suit the majority of your guests (I’m going to guess not all of your guests will be bringing dogs and are okay with other options).