- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Mr. C and I are from opposite sides and coasts of the US/Canadian border. Later this year we’re moving in together in Ontario. To avoid favoring one family or the other and to keep the size of our guest list small, we opted to have our wedding in Ontario. (Good thing we did because even with having a destination wedding, our guest list grew from 14 to 24 guests!)
It’s a weekend long destination wedding at a pretty country inn. The majority of the guests we’ve talked to, will be flying in and renting a car because it’s half an hour from the nearest airport.. The inn itself, is a short distance off a major highway, you simply turn off at the exit, drive a short ways and you’re there. Directions will be provided on our wedding website and we may try to get an app as well.
The itinerary for the weekend is:
Friday Morning & Afternoon
Guests arrive and receive welcome bags with bottled waters, snacks, etc.
Welcome Dinner – We’re hosting a welcome dinner at a nearby restaurant and going to provide transportation for anyone who took a taxi or shuttle.
After dinner before people return to their rooms, we plan to offer additional bottled waters & snacks because it’s 2 miles to a convenience store and we want to make sure that if someone took a cab or a shuttle that they’re comfortable for the night.
Breakfast – As part of their stay, the inn provides guests with a slightly expanded continental breakfast.
Optional Organized Outing – There will be an optional outing hosted by a relative with a mini-van for those who wish to tour a local museum, visit a few shops, and then finish at a plaza that has lunch options like Subway and McDonalds. The plaza also has an enormous drugstore with food and misc, in the event someone forgot something or wants some snacks.
For those who want to venture out on there own, maps to area attractions will be in the welcome bags.
Saturday Afternoon & Evening
The Wedding & Reception – Wedding is late afternoon. After the ceremony there’s a cocktail hour, followed by dinner and dancing, ice cream sundae bar and a late night snack.
Farewell Brunch – We’re hosting a brunch buffet to say farewell to our guests.
My feeling is that hosting the welcome dinner and brunch, combined with some pretty hefty welcome bags, that we’re doing enough. I feel that if they want lunch on the day of the wedding, they can either go on the outing and get something on their own, drive somewhere, order a pizza, or go to the inn’s restaurant which has lunch for $10-$20 including a lunch buffet that’s around $20. However, my mom feels that we should provide them with lunch, that if we’re hosting them, we should feed them every single meal.
Our original budget was around 5k and our end budget is roughly double that. I told her that since we’re paying for the wedding ourselves and trying to cut our budget, that I don’t feel we can spend another $300-$500 on a lunch, that people don’t want to have every moment planned out and that we’re already doing plenty for the guests. I plan to list food options on our website so that people are aware ahead of time.
But my mom insists I should do something for lunch on Saturday and thinks we should pay for the people who go on the outing, even though they’ll choose where and if they get anything.
Are we doing enough for our guests? Is she right that we have to offer lunch in addition to everything else?