(Closed) Destination Wedding – No Maids. What to do?

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think having a girls’ day at the spa would be a great way to express your appreciation to your friends! Is there something you could do with them at the resort where you’re getting married, like a sort of last minute bachelorette type day trip you could take together?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Because the guest list is so intimate, the friends that you’ve invited will absolutely know how important they are to you! But a spa day (and maybe a lunch for all the ladies?) the day before the wedding sounds like a lovely idea!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are in the same boat! FH and I decided not to have a bridal party for the exact same reason! Although we are considering having just one bridesmaid and one groomsmen (maybe lol). However, I was thinking of giving all my girls a corsage in the wedding colors with a personal letter from me.

I think the spa day is really nice!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I like the spa day and I agree with Colette27, by being invited, they know how much they mean to you. Nothing like being invited to an exclusive party!

Otherwise, my suggestions would be to do something nice for them at home, like shopping for new suits and offering to pay for the swimwear. Or, buying them all wraps for the beach. Or if you can’t afford the whole spa, maybe pedi/manis?

And as far as having your mom stand up, I think that’s fine. My FI’s cousin just got married this summer and just had her mom stand up for her. I thought it was touching to know she was that close to her mother.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

There are several posts from Bee’s who have done nice things for their ladies who are not technically “maids”… Mrs. Lemonade, comes to mind, but there are some others too, read through some archives and you’ll find them.  Some have included nice invitations to “get ready with the girls” very nicely done… they can still be there with you, without the expense.

Second… Yes, there is definately a “We’ll be there no matter what it sounds great” initial response, but with the economic uncertainty, it’s no uncommon for folks to back out or decline after initial entheusiasm.  For many brides, at home receptions are a good option when this happens. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

A day at the spa sounds great – I think I’ll do this too! 🙂

I had friends that first said that they wouldn’t miss it for the world, and then had to back out because mainly of money or vacation issues. No hard feelings because as long as I’m marrying the man I love, we’ll be happy.  There will be parties when we come back, and we probably will not be the ones hosting.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Beachy Bride thanks for posting Mrs. Lemonade’s idea about sending an invite to the girls to get dressed together! For me thats the one thing Id miss most so Ill deff add that to my wedding!

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