Post # 1
I am planning a wedding that we are considering to be a destination wedding in a scenic local with lots of outdoor activities available. Our families live between 8 and 17 hours away by car and we and our friends who live about two hours away by car. I would expect that most of our guests would spend the night in the area.
I am considering having the ceremony & reception on the Sunday of Memorial Day Weekend or the Sunday of Labor Day Weekend. My thinking is that guests could travel on Friday night or Saturday. There would be activities availble to do on Saturday and Sunday morning, and they could travel home on Monday.
But would I be hijacking a holiday?
Post # 3
@Zusie: Honestly to me it really depends on the holiday, the location, and how far in advance I was notified.
Labor Day/Memorial Day would be great if it was a warm fun location.
4th of July is ok as long as I’m guaranteed fireworks
Thanksgiving, Christmas are not really ok
New Years can go either way.
Post # 4
@Zusie:We’re doing a Destination Wedding as well and were considering a holiday weekend for this very reason. But, we changed our minds because we started to think about traffic and the high volume of travel during a holiday weekend. We also realized that hotels and accomodations tend to be slightly more expensive. So, we planned for the weekend before Labor Day because in our circle of friends and family it happened to be a pretty quiet work week.
Post # 5
I personally don’t like holiday weekend weddings. Hotels/plane tickets are more expensive and you’ve taken away my would be lazy lake/ocean weekend.
Post # 6
We attended a semi-destination wedding (I’d say 75% of the guests were from out of town) over Memorial Day weekend. Personally, we thought it was great. They invited everyone to the rehearsal dinner on Saturday, and then the wedding was on Sunday. Since we don’t get to see most of our friends too often, it was nice to have a couple of days hanging out with them, and we had time on Monday morning to do some site-seeing in a city that we had never really visited before. That said, we live in a city where we don’t know many people, and so most of our weekends are pretty boring, so it didn’t really feel like we were “missing out” on a long weekend.
If it was a wedding where most people are not travelling, I would say to avoid the holiday weekend, however.
Post # 7
I don’t think its the best idea, mostly because airfare and hotels will be MUCH more expensive than usual. Also, we are mulling over an early September wedding, and everytime anyone asks they breathe a giant sigh of relief when we clarify not Labor Day weekend.
Post # 8
I would have an issue with Christmas or Thanksgiving, or maybe even Easter because that would throw a major wrench in our “holiday sharing’ rotation. Maybe if it was a family wedding we would go, since it would be easy enough to play tradesies, but it would be hard to do for a friend, which would suck.
Post # 9
I say go for it, its an extra day of PTO that most wont have to use.
Post # 10
I have a Destination Wedding on a holiday, honestly, i didn’t even know it was labor day until way after it was booked.
I don’t think its either considerate or inconsiderate. I don’t think it should make much difference even if it’s not Destination Wedding if you plan it on a long weekend is that bad becasue you force people not to go on a trip but stay at hom instead who kows? That’s too much to think about. I’d just avoid Christmas and thanksgiving.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
Highly recommend not doing it on a holiday weekend. I know a lot of our family plans over a year in advance for these weekends and if we got a invitation we would be unable to attend. 🙁
Post # 12
We had our Destination Wedding Memorial Day weekend this year and it worked out great. In our families there are certain holiday weekends that would be off limits but this was definitely not one of them. In my mind it just depends on what your friends/family do that weekend. If you know a lot of people make plans for it in advance, then maybe it’s not the best idea. Otherwise I’d go for it.
It gave all of our guests an extra day to enjoy Mexico and not worry about missing even more work.
I was also worried about increased travel expenses but found that the extra cost was negligible (like $20 per plane ticket). I thought the convenience of the extra day outweighted the minimal extra cost.
Post # 13
We might be the same weekend! We are getting married on the Saturday of Memorial Day weekend in Estes Park, Colorado, which is “semi-destination” since we live in Denver and over half the guests (and all family) will be coming in from out of state. The Memorial Day weekend choice was actually due to the simultaneous availability of the church + reception location, however I am really happy we are doing it.
I would guess that a lot of relatives will be coming exactly because it is on a holiday weekend. The extra day means that everyone can stick around a bit longer and enjoy the mountains.
I would go for it – rather than feeling like you are hijacking a holiday, think of it as enhancing a holiday.
Post # 14
my first thought was no because airfare will be higher. however, if ALL your guests are likely driving, then i don’t see a problem.