Post # 1
With all the issues with my FI’s family, several people (including the social worker my Fiance talked to to figure out how to handle them) have said, “maybe you two should have a destination wedding!”
Well, its nice that we have a nice, decently long engagement to figure things out.
On one hand, I would really love to have all of my friends and family to be there. I’m 21 and we’re planning a wedding 2 years away when I’m 23. Most of my friends will have just graduated college and I’m not sure if they would have the financial ability to come. I think most of my aunts and uncles would be willing to come – and a destination wedding would be a great way to get my parents out of the country – FOR ONCE.
On the other hand though, I would like to have a small wedding, or so I think sometimes. If I stayed in PA or MD then I would probably have about 120 guests. I couldn’t have that many for a destination wedding, which could be nice… but not so nice if important people are missing.
But then again, there’s always facebook, so they could see pictures. 😉
Our budget is fairly low – but we’re not really pinching pennies either. We have some lee-way..
What are everyone’s thoughts? What are the differences in expenses? The difference in expierience? Pros and cons?
Post # 3
Have you thought about having a videographer bradcast the wedding so people who weren’t able to come will be able to watch? That’s an option with a Destination Wedding.
Post # 4
We just decided to have an intimate destination wedding. If we would have it locally it would either get out of control with the guest list or if we kept it small people would be really hurt they weren’t invited.
So we’re going to mexico to get married with less than 30 people and then will have a super fun/casual party when we get back that we will invite everyone to.
Post # 5
@MissHobbit: That’s a pretty cool idea!! I wonder how much that would cost…
@Penelopeee: Yeah, that’s what I was thinking too. If it was something local but small then people would be hurt if they didn’t get invited. That’s why I think that maybe a destination wedding would end up being cheaper in the end (hopefully).
Post # 6
I am in pretty much the exact same situation. We’re having a Destination Wedding in Mexico 2 weeks after I graduate. I was actually shocked by how many people are coming. Most of our guests have ended up being our college friends. We have 39 people coming, 15 of which are our college friends (and nobody is from a dadd-warbucks type situation either). I have found it to be wonderful because planning it is so much less stress (we’re having it at an all-inclusive so they take care of pretty much everything) and I’m in school so less stress is a bonus. The wedding itself is actually relatively cheap as well. It depends on where you have it too. Anywhere in the Caribbean would be quite expensive, but Mexico is quite inexpensive. Find yourself a good travel agent who will give you lots of different resort options.
Fiance hasa HUGE (read: over 100 first cousins kind of huge) family and this was the only way we could invite everyone, offend no one, not go into the poor house, and get the intimate wedding we always wanted. It’s been a great experience for me. I would heartily reccomend it.