Post # 1
I’m getting married in Santorini and have hired a reputable and experienced wedding planner. She will also be helping to plan additional events other than the wedding. She threw out some ideas of a welcome party, rehearsal dinner (everyone would be invited) and a post wedding brunch. I asked if I should do all 3 additional events and she said it would probably be too much for guests because from her experience they like to have time to do things on their own. I’ve never really liked the idea of a post wedding brunch, so I’m left with the welcome party and rehearsal dinner. Most people would arrive 2 days before the wedding. Would it be too much to have them come to a welcome party on Thursday, rehearsal dinner on Friday and wedding on Saturday? It just seems like too many events in a row. I want to host them properly, but I don’t want them to feel overwhelmed by 3 events in a row. Could the rehearsal dinner and welcome party be combined? I’m glad I have her expert advice, but I’d like to know what you’d think if you were a guest. Any opinions and advice welcome!
Post # 2
As a guest, I would appreciate your not trying to plan our every moment. If I am travelling that far for your wedding, I want to have some time to do what I want to do without feeling like I have to have one eye on the clock so I don’t miss something on your calendar.
One welcome event is more than enough.
Post # 3
Thank you! If you were arriving on Thursday, would you expect to have an event to go to that evening? Or would you rather settle in and go to one on Friday?
Post # 4
Are you or your guests Greek? The reason I ask is if they are traveling to Greece and maybe have never been to Santorini or Greece in general they may want to explore a little and enjoy. Also, having three events might be a lot on you when you also may just want to enjoy.
I got my engagement pictures done in Santorini and LOVED my photographer so if you are still looking for one I can give you his information!!
Post # 6
Are you paying for dinner at the welcome dinner and rehearsal? I ask this, because from what I’ve looked at Santorini (we may honeymoon there, we got engaged in mainland Greece), it can be slightly expensive. I might want to settle in or explore, but honestly if there was an event I could go to with food included, I’d probably go. Gosh typing that out makes me feel really cheap lol.
If you want to have a welcome party, I would just make sure that people know it is completely optional. That way they could choose between settling in, exploring, or going to the party.
I also think it really depends on who is coming. My friends would probably want to explore then meet up later for some drinks. But I know my close family would prefer a wedding related event.
However, you’re most likely going to be pretty stressed/busy those few days before the wedding. Be careful not to plan too much so you can enjoy yourself too.
Post # 7
My upcoming wedding is in France. We are planning a welcome party for the day before and a brunch for the day after. French weddings have a brunch and no rehearsal dinner.
We also attended a wedding last year on one of the Greek islands. They had a welcome party and a brunch as well. Bride was French and the groom was Greek with guests from all over the world.
It’s totally optional for guests to attend either of the other events, but all the American guests seem to appreciate having the extra events after traveling so far to come to our wedding and the French guests expect a brunch.
Can you do a welcome party with drinks and appetizers that leads into a rehearsal dinner so it’s all on Friday and let guests rest on Thursday?
Post # 8
I’m Greek, my fiance is Greek and so are a majority of our guests. Some live in Greece and some travel to Greece frequently to visit family. Having 3 events makes me feel stressed out, but I don’t want to underhost our guests. And yes, I’d love to know your photographer. I haven’t booked one yet!
Yes, we will be paying for any and all additional events.
I don’t know how I’d have a welcome party that leads into rehearsal dinner since I’d be at the rehearsal during the “welcome” part of it and wouldn’t be able to welcome anyone. Would it be bad to just have a dinner that is both the welcome party and rehearsal dinner in one? For the wedding you attended in Greece, was the welcome party on Thursday (assuming the wedding was on a Saturday) and was it a full dinner? Were guests left to be on their own for Friday?
You guys have been great! Thanks!
Post # 9
We did a welcome dinner Thursday, snorkel tour Friday morning, rehearsal dinner for all Friday night, wedding Saturday and brunch Sunday. So all plus an event! We said they were all optional other than the wedding and brunch on Sunday wasn’t a typical brunch as we just paid for everyone’s breakfast whether they got room service or went to the restaurant and there was no set time.
Everyone came to all three dinners and seemed happy to do so but we had about 10 skip the snorkel tour. We wanted to host as much as possible since people were flying to Jamaica and give those who didn’t want to make plans something to do but it was clear we didn’t expect folks to come if they wanted to do other stuff. I’m happy with our choice!
Post # 10
Wow that’s a lot! How many guests total came to your wedding?
Post # 11
Rehearsal dinner should be a welcome party too. Give them welcome bags there. That’s what I’m doing. The third day I’m doing a farewell sunset cruise.
Post # 12
He and his partner are truly amazing and my fiance and i loved working with him!!! I can PM you some pictures if you would like to see!
I don’t think you need to host the welcoming party. I think you are fine skipping that. I have a few friends from GOYA and church that got married in Greece and skipped this part.
Post # 13
Maybe you could have the rehearsal earlier? It was fun to see long distance friends and meet the other guests before the wedding during the welcome party. I liked being able to mingle and walk around meeting people, which you don’t get to do during a sit down dinner. There was a lot of appetizers being passed around. Afterwards we all ended up walking to town for dinner in various groups, it wasn’t a planned dinner. The welcome party was the day before the wedding. We also chose to skip planning a rehearsal dinner because welcome parties tend to be more fun than rehearsal dinners in my experience. The venue for our party is also a restaurant so people are free to stay for dinner after the party, but we are not covering meals.
Post # 14
I would personally come to all the events! It’s nice to know that you’re thinking of your guests. I also love brunch so much, so I would really appreciate a relaxing meal the morning after the wedding! You know your guests best though. So pick the events you think they would most like to attend. Talk to your parents and grandparents and see what they suggest.
Post # 15
I had a destination wedding in Australia. I’m American and husband is Australian. The majority of our guest were Australian. We had a Welcome Dinner Cruise on Tuesday, Rehersal Dinner on Wednesday, Wedding on Thursday and Post Wedding Brunch on Friday. Everyone was grateful for all the events. We had only 18 people total. All the events were hosted. I felt like since the expenses were so great to attend my wedding for the Americans I want to make sure we showed them a good time. No one complained about too many activities and I certainly was grateful to spend time with everyone.