- 5 years ago
*I’ll preface this post by saying that I have only sent out save the dates for my wedding and that I did not put “and guest” on any of them.*
My wedding is a very small, intimate destination wedding. A few of the friends I’ve invited are single. I verbally told them in passing that they would be given a plus one to bring a date. I have now had a couple of people tell me that they are planning to bring a same-sex friend along as their “plus one” – none of whom are mutual friends.
I don’t want to be rude to these guests, but the reason our wedding is so small is that we want only those who are closest to us there, not a bunch of strangers. Plus, we already had to cut a lot of people from our list who we would have loved to invite (including relatives) and don’t know how we’d explain this situation to them. I verbally told these people that they’d get to bring a date many months ago a) with the thought that they may have a significant other come the wedding date and b) before I realized how limited our venue truly is.
It seems passive aggressive to just wait until we send the invitation and not put “and guest” but is it rude to call them and tell them that we are thrilled they’re coming and know they will have a great time (as will the guest) traveling but hope they understand that the friend won’t be able to attend the rehearsal dinner or wedding? If we were having a 300 person wedding this would be a totally different story…
Any thoughts would be very much appreciated!