Post # 1
Hi there all!
My fiance and I are planning a wedding in Michigan. The bed and breakfast we have selected only provides wedding and lodging packages. They require that we fill the small B&B for three nights with our guests, which is just fine. The problem is that they require package payment only fromt he brida and groom. We did not plan on paying for our guests’ lodging. Since the B&B requires that we pay for the whole package and won’t allow guests to pay for their rooms separately; how do we, or can we even, ask guests to pay us back somehow for their lodging?? This seems like such a tacky thing to ask our family and guests to do. If we can ask, anyone have a suggestion as to how to present or word it??? Thank you so much.
Post # 3
@HeatherAgee2B: It seems this has come up a few times before and I fail to see why it’s “tacky” to explain to friends/family. We rented 2 large, 5 bedroom houses for our bridal party. Before doing so, we consulted with everyone to see if they would be interested in renting into the house or if they preferred to find their own lodgings. We then researched, mapped, and paid the deposits on the houses. This led to them having to do nothing on their end, which was much easier for everyone all around (except us, maybe, ha ha).
Are you thinking about putting it on the invitation? Or on your website? I think it’s fine to say “rooms have already been reserved by the bride and groom; if you’d like to stay in the B&B (is that their only option?), payment can be made directly to them” or etc.
Good luck, I’m sure it will work out well!
Post # 4
We have a similar situation with flights. Only ours is a little different because we only extended the group discount offer to people we are friends with – it actually just worked out that way because everyone flying from NY is a friend (not a family member or parent’s friend). So we just sent an email and asked people to send us the money if they wanted to reserve a seat. Most of my friends paid me via Chase P2P (I’m sure all banks have something similar), or I told them Paypal was fine too.
In your situation, I think people expect to pay for their lodging. I agree with sharkchomp – it’s helpful that you’re setting it up for them, so all you really need to know is if people want in or would rather do it alone. I’d put it on your website as she suggested (“payment can be made directly to the bride and groom”, or even a contact us link where they can email or message you, and you can privately explain the best way (just have your email preprared so you can copy and paste it!). Good luck.
Post # 5
Thank you borh for the insight and the suggested wording. We don’t have a website, but i will add it into our official invitations if we decide to go this route. So appreciate all your help!
Post # 6
@HeatherAgee2B: How many rooms does that equate to? If no one wnted to stay at this B&B and that left you with the entire bill, could you still put on your wedding with your funds?
The idea is that you cannot tell where guests have to stay, but you can make it an option. I like the wedding website idea. Also, it should be an idea you can afford but doesn’t require everyone having to book a room. Then you mention on the website, the rooms are booked, but $X would go to you.
When we had a Destination Wedding planned, we booked six cabins right on the grounds of the wedding/ceremony (so no walking). It was a miracle that six were free for that weekend, so we snatched them all up. They were not required for the wedding, but we did have to pay for all three nights lodging (minimum) up front – as in no reservations, you had to pay! That was like $3500 total! We put our feelers first to see if folks would be interested in having a cabin so close, but it would be $X for a cabin and 3 nights required, and that they’d pay us.
We took the risk understanding not everyone would want a cabin and not everyone would want 3 nights. We were aware that we’d pay the rest ourselves.
We sent out Save-The-Date Cards which had a wedding website on it and included the cabin and other lodging info.