(Closed) Destination Wedding regrets?

posted 11 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hello there! Is anyone getting married in Oahu, Hawaii? If so, any recommendations on vendors or hotels? My Destination Wedding is a very small affair and I want to throw a welcome party and reception. Any suggestions on where to obtain chairs and tables and perhaps a caterer?

I’m not a diy person, but I think I’m being forced to learn through this wedding planning! Bees, any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Post # 18
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We live in VA but are getting married in Puerto Rico.  It’s destination for us, but not for 75% of our guestlist!  And from what I’m hearing, everyone is going… soooo we’re looking at 200 guests, but we’re excited about it!  Our whole family lives in PR, with the exception of my parents and sisters, and a couple uncles and cousins, but the meat and potatoes of both our families are there, and they are ecstatic!  I have a lot of connections through the family, so all decorations, favors, cake is all taken care of, I just need to go out 3 months before the wedding, pay off everything, buy the supplies, and everything will be done by the time we get there. 

Post # 19
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3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We were married in Negril, Jamaica 12/12/09..

How many people did you invite?  120? We didn’t invite any more than we could have possibly paid for if everyone said yes.. that meant a few people didn’t get an invite, which is sad but to be honest they probably wouldn’t have come anyway.

How many people came? 50! We had more RSVP yes but we had some people flake, and some people legitimately back out (preggo with twins Laughing )

Did you ever regret having a Destination Wedding instead of a traditional wedding? NO WAY! I would do it all again and not change anything. Heck, we would have just gone bigger if we did it again.

What is better/worse about a DW? No silly stuff to plan, like chairs, table cloths, napkins, etc. It’s also a good excuse for not following stuffy traditions or having to pretend you’re a princess. It’s also great b/c you don’t have to feel the same pressure to talk to everyone right after the wedding – they’re there all weekend. You can party at your reception! Imagine that Wink

 

DOOOO ITTTTT.. it’s great! and very memorable.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We are having a Destination Wedding wedding because most of his family/friends have to fly in from out of state or across Texas.  My family/friends it is a 5 hour drive.

We invited 450 people, so far we’ve gotten 80 yes and 30 no.  We sent invites out last week.  We anticipate about 200-230 people coming.

I am not regretting having a Destination Wedding wedding because our location is so neat and fun for everyone.  We are having a golf outing that morning, wine tasting in the afternoon, ceremony/reception that night and brunch the following morning.  So lots of guests are excited about the mini-vacation.

Worse part is getting in touch with vendors.  We’ve made 3 trips out there to book venues/rentals/caterers. 

Best part is that it is forcing us to get things done ahead of time so that come the Thursday prior everything is done and we get to enjoy our time with family/friends.

I did have a friend who had a wedding in Puerto Rico.  She invited 150 people and 100 went.

We also had another friend who lives in Hawaii and had her wedding there.  We didn’t go because she choose to have it on the side of the island that has zero hotels.  So that meant we had to rent a car in order to get to the wedding site and to our hotel.  That was just going to be too costly for us.  Also, she had it on a holiday weekend.  The flights get booked to capacity on holiday weekends so I wouldn’t recommend that.

Post # 21
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

We are having a Destination Wedding next month in Savannah, GA.  We live in Boston (as do all of my FI’s family & friends) while my family & friends are from the midwest & south, so a neutral location [in a warmer climate] was a great compromise.  And my Fiance did not want to recite vows in front of a ton of people, especially a bunch of distant relatives and family friends that we don’t know very well (if at all).  We invited 120 and 60 are coming. 

My parents still wanted to have a second reception in my hometown two weeks after the actual wedding for 1. people we did not invite due to wanting to keep the actual wedding small and 2. people that could not make it to Savannah.  That reception will be a little more casual than the formal reception we’re having after the ceremony.  I’m very grateful to my parents for wanting to throw this second party for us.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I got married in San Juan, Puerto Rico and it was the best decision I ever made!

Invited: 100, Attended: 30

Don’t regret at all! But I was never the person who wanted a big traditional wedding to begin with. However, I also didn’t have one of those all-inclusive DWs where everything is planned for you, so you can have the best of both worlds if you want.

Best: Our closest friends and family are the ones who came to the wedding making it an intimate, warm, really friendly affair. Everyone got to know each other, danced with each other and enjoyed each other’s company!

Worst: For me, there really isn’t a worst. (well, okay, I had photographer issues, but that can happen anywhere) The only thing I usually do put out there for people on the fence about DWs is this: you will have less control over the details because you’re planning from a distance, so I do think if you’re someone who simply wants every detail to be the way you envision it or who wants to do a lot of DIY, a Destination Wedding may not be for you.

Post # 23
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are having a Destination Wedding and they are doing most of the booking/calling etc..  I am inviting only 30 and 25 are confirmed.  It will be very intimate and this is my first wedding so i am stoked!!  I have always wanted to have a destination wedding next to a ocean.  it will be taking place in Mexico at VIM, October 24, 2010.   Congratulations to everyone!!!Cool

Post # 24
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2006

I hope this helps… for the record… I would do it all again, the same way all over again if given the choice!

How many people did you invite? 60

How many people came? 50

Did you ever regret having a Destination Wedding instead of a traditional wedding? Absolutely 100% NOT. It was the best decision we’ve ever made!!

What is better/worse about a DW? The best…. location!!! What beats the sun and sea as the backdrop to your wedding. It’s casual, the planning is practically done for you. You get a week of fun with your family and friends.

The ONLY negative thing I had happen was my hair. The stylists that were at my particular resort did not speak English and did not follow my photo so my hair was done.. then I went back to my room and washed it out and redid it. It looked that bad. In the end it was fine but I wasted quite a bit of time and money initially to get it done wrong.

I can’t imagine getting married in a church with a big hall ceremony here… so much work and planning and not alot of fun… this is the way to go!!

Post # 25
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Helper bee

WDWBride, Kitten, and Sadie all of your stories are inspiring! You’ve made me excited.

For Honeybear I say go with your gut. I live in Texas also and I am planning a Destination Wedding for on a Florida Beach in Summer 2011. And I’m about 80% sure that I want a Destination Wedding over local. More stress locally and cost more. (Especially with my taste). Also I don’t want to have to deal with the minor details that people pay attention to. Paying hundreds for flowers, decor, bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc. Too much of a hassle in my eyes. I’ve helped plan two local weddings and they are drama. Even when you go with the “all inclusive” venues those appear to look cheap to me and I can’t stand it for myself.

We both love to travel and adore the beach. I entertained the idea of having our DW in the Carribean but like some of the other posts I saw the “legalities” involved and opted for a US or US Territory wedding (i.e. US Virgin Island or Hawaii) Because you don’t have to go through all of the trouble. The reason I did not choose those though is because of the expense. I got the best location (Florida) that would be the most affordable for my guests.

Still deciding on whether to have a reception when we return within 2-4 weeks after the wedding. Will probably do so. But not too fancy. Depending on our budget. Something nice though. Nice venue, good food, great entertainment, etc.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

How many people did you invite? ~120ish (everyone who would have been invited to a hometown wedding

How many people came? 44 plus us make 46 ๐Ÿ™‚

Did you ever regret having a Destination Wedding instead of a traditional wedding? There were some times during the planning when I though it may have been easier to have an at home wedding, but once we got to Jamaica, all those thoughts got washed away in beautiful Caribbean waves ๐Ÿ™‚

Bests: We got to spend at least a week with all of our favourite people in the world, especially family members that live far away and we don’t get to spend nearly enough time with. Because we saved so much money by choosing a Destination Wedding, we were able to splurge on upgrades to our reception at the resort. The money we saved on having a Destination Wedding meant we were able to buy a house last March(!).

Worsts: Getting used to ‘Island Time’ and how things are done in Jamaica (not necessarily a Destination Wedding thing, but a Jamaica thing). Not a single other regret though ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

How many people did you invite?

about 100

How many people came?

38

Did you ever regret having a Destination Wedding instead of a traditional wedding?

Not ever! No way! Everyone who came had an amazing time and got to know each other. They’ve all added each other as facebook friends and talk to each other often now.

What is better/worse about a DW?

Not everyone you know and love will be able to make it, but the ones who matter the most will make it with enough notice to save the money for a vacation and an event they’ll cherish with loved ones forever.

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