(Closed) Destination wedding-should I expect gifts from my guests?

posted 9 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: Should I expect a wedding gift from my guests who are attending my DW?

    Yes, you should have the same gift expectations as you would a wedding at home!

    Yes, but the gift should and probably will be less than an average wedding gift.

    No, your guests' attendance at your DW is their gift and nothing more should be expected.

  • Post # 92
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    5653 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My SIL had a Destination Wedding and she still got a lot of gifts. Not as much as I think she would have gotten if her wedding was local, but still a lot. Our family is really generous though. Her wedding cost us around $1500 just to attend and we gave her $200 for the gift.

    I personally think it’s rude not to at least bring a card to any wedding, but you will probably get less gifts since it is a Destination Wedding.

    Post # 93
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    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @CheekyWedding:  “When you have a destination wedding, the guests are basically paying for the food and venue when they pay the resort fee.” – This actually isn’t always true.  The resort where I am having my Destination Wedding is charging us a fee of about $35 per person for “alcohol, food for the cocktail hour and private service for our reception”.  So this is an all-inclusive resort that is making us pay for food/drink/service on the wedding day ON TOP of what our guests already paid to stay on the resort.  The hotel said they charge this because bridal parties take staff away from other paying guests so we have to pay extra.  Nice huh?  Anyway, yes guests are definitely paying to attend my wedding, but I’m not getting away scott free either.

    ETA – As for the venue, we techinically had to pay for that too.  We had to pay a rather large fee to close down one of the resort restaurants for our reception.  Again, because the hotel claims (and this I do agree with) that other paying guests will be unable to use the same facility that evening. 

    Post # 94
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    5653 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

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    @VegasSukie:  That’s such bull! I think these resorts should be happy to do weddings for free so that the bride and groom will invite as many people as possible who are going to pay big bucks to be there! They’d make a lot more money that way. Bad business sense if you ask me.

    What you’re saying is true, though. My SIL had to pay an extra $50 per person for her wedding on top of everyone’s all inclusive fees!

    Post # 95
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @DeathByDesign:  Oh it’s TOTAL bull!  Especially the alcohol and food part.  Like seriously, if we had gotten married off property and just came back to eat it would’ve been included (free).  That being said, I do understand the concept of limiting other guests’ dining options so I was ok with them charging for the exclusive use of the restaurant.  But yeah the rest…total scam.  It sucks though that most people assume the wedding guests take on all the costs and the B&G get away without paying for anything.  In our case, what we are spending on this Destination Wedding might’ve made a very nice at home reception.

    ETA – By The Way we have 20 rooms booked so far (40 guests).  You would think the hotel would waive some fees, right?

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