(Closed) Destination Wedding – STD’s or just send invites REALLY early

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It definitely sounds like your STD’s have become your invites. In this case, especially as people will need to be booking as early as Feb, I’d forgo STD’s altogether and just send them out as invites (we’re doing something similar btw, though ours isn’t a Destination Wedding, but half our guest list are OOTers who live half a world away). And I’d love to get a package in the mail closer to the date about the exciting things I could do whilst not spending time with the bride and groom for that week/end. And in that case I think if someone has RSVP’d no then you won’t need to send them anything.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Send out save the dates asap. Then send out invites closer to your wedding date, around 10 weeks before.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m doing electronic save the dates with a slideshow, is this an option for you?  I was a bit worried about the email option, but after hearing about a few bees’ experience on here and my families’ feedback, I have decided to send it out. Everyone loves it.  Good luck!!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’d say make your Save-The-Date Cards the invites, then send a little reminder and info package later on, with an official invite (with time, location, hosts, etc). Hope this helps!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

this is what happened to us.  we decided to forego the Save-The-Date Cards and just do full invites very early (same timeline, actually – Feb – December).  That way, we could tailor our correspondence for the folks that actually do RSVP yes.  Also, you are going to have people that say they are coming, but in fact do not. It’s just how it goes with a Destination Wedding – might as well skip the extra expense of the STD.  We also had a kicka$$ website – PM me for more info.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I say send them as invites and then maybe if people aren’t getting back to you, send a reminder postcard.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We skipped the STD. We sent invites, and on the invite was the link to our website, where all the cool travel information can be found, and stuff to get people excited, whether they could come or not.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We were in a similar situation.  We decided to send STD’s a year in advance, which have our website on them.  Obviously all the information is on our website.  We’ve also been sending out notifications, like a newsletter and postcard which acted as reminders.  Our invitations are being sent next week, but we’re already being told by people if they can go or not.  We’ve made it very clear to everyone that we know not everyone can go, but wanted to give everyone the option! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d say send both.  As a guest to an upcoming destination wedding that is in July, I have become very agitated that I have no info thus far!  I think it is very important to let the people who are paying to come to your wedding the details so they can make the appropriate arrangements (taking off work, scheduling the flight and hotel, etc…).  Having said that, you seem to be very aware of your guests feelings.  I think your idea is right on.  Send the STD’s with all the needed info, and the invitations as a reminder.  You seem to be heading in the right direction 🙂

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