Post # 1
I’m thinking about having a destination wedding the Sunday before Thanksgiving, either 2019 or 2020.
My partner and I currently live near San Francisco, but our families are split between Chicago, NYC, and Florida. We’re not really emotionally tied to any of those locations besides maybe Chicago, but I don’t want to have our wedding there because I want to keep the wedding to <100 people, and I know if it’s in Chicago that would be virtually impossible.
Instead, we’re thinking it would be super fun to have our wedding in Nashville. We met in Nashville our freshman year of college, plus a lot of our close friends and family keep saying how they would love to visit Nashville, and we think this could give them the perfect excuse!
With all that said, we would prefer to have a Sunday wedding for religious reasons. This isn’t an absolute requirement; however, the discounts for a Sunday wedding make it additionally attractive. But we don’t want to make it a huge inconvenience for our guests to travel either… Thus, we are thinking the Sunday before Thanksgiving could be nice, as it most people travel that week anyways, and this would just be one added leg to their trip.f
We’ve also considered Labor Day and Memorial Day weekend, but I think Nashville would be too hot in May and we already have other family commitments for Labor Day.
I’d love to get other bees thoughts on this idea though. Have you ever attended a wedding the Sunday before Thanksgiving? Were logistics annoying as a guest? Also, is that late in November too cold for an outdoor ceremoy in Nashville?
Post # 2
Its both busy and expensive as hell to travel that close to Thanksgiving. “Just an added leg” sounds like a nightmare to me. Unless you were suuuuuper close, I’d just not attend when I otherwise love weddings as an excuse to travel.
Post # 3
blueheart925 : I would probably go for my own child, maybe for a sibling. Anyone else would get my regretful decline. I’m not flying to a Destination Wedding on the busiest, most expensive travel week of the year. If most of your family travels that week anyway, this just means they will be travelling twice — once to your wedding, then again days later for Thanksgiving. Doesn’t sound like a good plan to me.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
blueheart925 : Well,
Though some people travel for thanksgiving, they don’t usually leave the previous Sunday for a Thursday event. I think asking people to fly that close to Thanksgiving is a bit much. Prices for airfare are substantially higher that week as well.
I’d choose a different weekend. October should be lovely, and there wouldn’t be other obvious conflicts. Though I understand the appeal of a long holiday weekend, it’s always more hectic and difficult to travel at those times.
When I went to Nashville in early October it was just beautiful. It was definitly chilly, so just plan for those conditions. November would likely be even cooler.
Post # 5
blueheart925 : I’d go, but I like traveling for weddings, it’s kind of like an excuse for us to make a trip happen when maybe we wouldn’t think to take time off of work around that certain time, or go to a place that we wouldn’t normally think to go.
I would check with your VIPs and see how they feel about it as they’ll likely feel differently than a bunch of strangers who have no connection to you.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t go. That time of year is already very busy for most people, and travel is typically much more expensive. Also adding a “leg” to a trip sounds unappealing to me. I’m not a fan of DW’s in general, but i’d rather you have it on a random weekend not surrounded by a holiday if I were going to attend.
Post # 7
Unless you were an immediate family member or my best friend I wouldn’t go.
Traveling around Thanksgiving is a nightmare. It’s busy and it’s expensive. On top of that people may already have standing travel plans for Thanksgiving and no just adding another leg isn’t easy/fun for anyone. It’s frustrating. Plus, it’s harder for a lot of people to get off work around that time of year.
Post # 8
I would check with your VIPs to see how they feel about it and then go from there. You won’t be 100% attendance on any holiday weekend, so IMO, just worry about the people you absolutely want there and then the rest will fall into place.
Post # 9
- Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek
There is nothing easy or fun about Thanksgiving travel for us. Having to add an additional expensive trip would result in our decline and best wishes.
btw theres a huge difference between people stating they would love to visit a location and actually planning to go there. There’s a reason they haven’t been yet. I wouldn’t want anyone trying to dictate when I get there, especially during an inconvenient time like a major holiday.
Post # 10
blueheart925 : why inconvenient everyone instead of having the courage to have a smaller guest list?
Post # 11
Def no. Tickets for me to fly home for thanksgiving are 400% higher than any other time of year. If I had to buy another flight on top of that I would be super annoyed
Post # 12
blueheart925 : adding an extra stop to travel for holidays and especially a wedding that requires costs for hotel, gift etc would honestly be very annoying as a guest on an already very expensive travel time and unless we were very close friends or family likely wouldnt attend.. this is time for family, I really dislike any thanksgiving/christmas weddings as I think its pretty selfish to make guests choose between family and attending a wedding and please dont say you wouldnt care if people didnt come. If you invited 100 guests and 20 showed up.. you would care.
Post # 13
Nashville is a pain in the ass to get to from a lot of US cities. If you’re lucky and there’s nonstop service, it’s either Southwest (yuck) or on a tiny regional jet, and it’s always expensive. Add in the Sunday before a major holiday and that’s going to be a horrible travel day for the guests.
Post # 14
Nope. I live in Nashville and in the past 5 years it’s turned into bachelorette city. Think hummer convertibles/dune buggies full of intoxicated “woo” girls in downtown/music row. And anywhere else outside of Nashville (Brentwood, Franklin, Hendersonville, etc) takes ~1 hour to get to. I live in one of the areas above 13 miles outside of Vanderbilt University/Belmont and it takes me 45 min average to drive in. Your guests will not want to travel through BNA, which is too small for its traffic now, push through Nashville traffic (Google it, it’s on the level of Atlanta/Chicago now), stay in an overpriced hotel/Airbnb, and deal with drunk tourists in downtown before Thanksgiving.
oh and plus there is no public transit so you pretty much have to drive everywhere. Plus Nashville weather that time of year can be wet and thunder storming. FH told me yesterday a huge thunderstorm rolled through and my friends in grad school had their planes messed up because of it. Weather is unpredictable that time of year, but could be really nice.
Post # 15
blueheart925 : and this would just be one added leg to their trip.
How much do you travel? Because that it just awful. An added leg is more days off, at least two more plans to get them to you, and then to where they need to go after. The cost. The pain in an ass. You’re asking a lot.